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Am I Ready To Date? 6 Questions To Ask Yourself

August 20, 2019 by
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Maybe it was a divorce. Or a trial separation. Maybe it was even your first love; the one you swore to cherish and keep throughout eternity. But whatever the cause, you may find yourself with a perennial question: am I ready to date again?

Even more importantly, when are you not ready to date again?

It might seem simple enough to saddle up and get back into the dating ring again. But times have changed. The world’s turned digital—and so have the rules of dating. Maybe you’re at an age where the bar scene is no longer appropriate nor even relevant. Or maybe you’re just like millions of other people who simply aren’t certain whether or not they’re ready to start dating again.

But if not now, then when?

It’s easy to feel pessimistic when facing uncertainty about dating. But pessimism isn’t just unattractive. It’s downright damaging. Recent research has linked pessimism to serious health conditions, including an increased risk of heart disease. Which is hardly comforting when you’re facing the prospect of dating again, but hopefully it might change your attitude altogether.

But before you get too down on yourself, here are some questions you may want to ask yourself before you decide you’re ready to date again.

What Is It That I Need Right Now?

Be absolutely honest with yourself before you start dating again. That means evaluating your needs, not your wants. Is it marriage? An activity partner? A confidante? Often times, one of the biggest mistakes we’ve made in a failed relationship isn’t just failing to know what we’re looking for. It’s failing to understand what we need in order to be happy, enriched and fulfilled. And what we need can frequently turn up when we least expect it—and in the most unlikely places.

Is It Too Easy For Me To Fall In Love?

We’re giddy with the prospect of finding the right one when we start dating again. We make lists. We idealize every possible attribute—physically, mentally and emotionally. It consumes every waking second. But are you being realistic? Are you jumping the gun? If you find yourself assuming the “right one” will materialize as quickly as your first date, don’t. Especially if you’ve been out of the dating game for a while. It’s easy to make presumptions. But it’s more reasonable to take your time in getting to know someone than setting yourself up for unrealistic expectations.

Have I Healed Enough To Start Dating Again?

Break ups are always painful. Some more so than others. And sometimes the pain can linger for months, if not years. But fixating on the past never does anyone good. And this is especially the case if fear is what’s stopping you from dating again. We’re not suggesting you automatically look for love immediately after a break up; in fact, you’re more likely to find a substitute than anything else. But you can’t let circumstances hold you back, either. Take your time. But don’t let past mistakes stand in the way of your happiness.

Am I Compatible Enough To Start Dating Again?

This can be one of the harder questions to answer, especially when you’re plagued by doubt. But the truth is… you are. Except there’s no such thing as universal compatibility when dating. We all have our own peculiar strengths and weaknesses. It’s what makes us human. You can’t force compatibility—or chemistry for that matter. But you can learn to be honest with yourself and others. Everything else comes naturally.

What Can I Offer That Others Can’t?

What is it that makes you unique? A catch? What’s something you can provide a partner that no one else can? Lots of people have both jobs, responsibilities and savings. Many of them may be quite intelligent. Many of them may even be down to earth. But what makes you… well, you? Learning to find what is distinct about you is the first step to getting your confidence back. Make a list of all your accomplishments and strengths. Everything you can think of, no matter how small. You’d be surprised at just how much you can stand out when it comes to dating.

What Have I Learned Before I Start Dating Again?

No matter how devastated your last break up might have left you, there’s always room to grow and evolve as a result. Every experience we have—whether we lose a job or a relationship—is a learning experience. Sometimes, that can be as simple as asking the right questions. Other times, it can be as difficult as learning how to communicate effectively. Take what you’ve learned to heart. Don’t see your break up as a punishment, but an opportunity.  One that can bring you real happiness, not a substitute.

If you’re ready to look for love in an entirely new place, visit Ukraine Brides Agency and find the beautiful Ukranian woman of your dreams today! 

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3 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF AFTER 3 MONTHS OF DATING

November 30, 2018 by


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Everyone wants to find a good partner and be happy. We all are looking for something that will give us energy and inspiration, and motivation! What is that? Yes, that is LOVE. Only this feeling completes us as human beings. While dating you realize how important this person is, how much time you are ready to spend with this person and do you want to see him/her tomorrow again.

You never know the last time you will see a place or a person. That is why it is so important to be careful with your feelings, emotions, and behavior. Every person is unique and every relationship seems to be a separate planet with two bellowed hearts. A perfect relationship does not exist and this is what is called R E A L I T Y. Be ready for 3 questions to ask yourself after 3 months of dating.

Question 1: Does what do make with your partner make you happy?

This question involves too many other little questions. Such like “Do you go out a lot? Do you go out to drink some coffee and listen to live music while walking and holding each other hands?”

They may seem trivial to you at first, but they will have a great significance when you start to think about the other two questions later on. Furthermore, you also have to ask what you are doing when you are on your own.

Question 2: How do you feel about you and your partner?

Once you know what your current lifestyle is like, the next step is to question your feelings for your partner. Here you start asking yourself what are the aspects that you like about your partner. What are the aspects that you do not like about your partner? What are the sensations that you feel when you are or are not around your other half? To avoid over-thinking about the connection and getting into a mild anxiety attack, you just need to establish what ground you are standing on, as well, as the ground that your partner is on too.

Question 3: What do you in your relationship in the next three months?

Here you should realize whether you indeed want to continue the relationship with this person or not. Even if you feel like you want to spend a big part of your life with your partner, it is important that you have a discussion with him or her about the romance and relationship.

In our blog you may find more interesting information. Our UBA Team would like to suggest you to read this interesting article and learn more dating advice.

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7 Questions you Must Ask for a Happy Married Life

August 18, 2017 by
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You know what they say, a married life is not a bed of roses. Well, it is actually true. There are just so many married couples who end up being miserable or separating. And there are many issues and crisis that have led them to this path.

This is basically the reason why it is very important that couples who are about to get married contemplate before they finally make one of the biggest decisions in their life. It is important to know that love is not and will not be enough for a lasting marriage. There are other important things and considerations that you must know if you want your married life to be happy and to make it work. While you can’t expect your relationship to be perfect, asking these questions will help you determine as early as now whether your marriage will work or not.

Here are some of the most important questions should be asking and discussing before walking down that aisle.

1. Do you want kids? And how many kids would you like to have?

This is an important topic you need to discuss with your future spouse. That’s because many couples do not talk about and decide. It may seem like a very basic thing but if you have conflicting opinions, then it could lead to a bigger issue.

2. How will you handle conflict and stress?

Each and every person has his own way of dealing with conflicts and stress. Even if you are a couple, it does not necessarily mean that you have the same perspective when it comes to resolving conflicts. Some people prefer some quiet time first before talking, so that their emotions could subside until they are ready to talk again. Some others prefer to discuss the issue right then and there. These are one of the things you need to know about each other so that you can meet halfway and respect each other’s prerogative. It’s also because you can expect a lot of arguments during your married life, even when it comes to the small, mundane and random things.

3. Who will handle the finances?

Money is the last thing you would ever want to fight about when you are married. That’s why before you even tie the knot, you need to discuss about your future finances to avoid unnecessary arguments.

4. How are you when it comes to your families?

No matter what, your families will always be in the background of your marriage. That’s why you need to make sure that you cultivate harmonious relationships with them before you even get married. You need to establish terms by which you and your partner are both comfortable with. For example, when your parents get old and when they need care, you must decide who will be taking good care of them. It is just one among the many things that will involve your in-laws.

5. What kind of parenting style will you practice?

If both of you agreed to have children, you need to agree on the parenting style and the kind of discipline you will implement to your children. You can’t disagree in front of your children when it comes to how you discipline them or they might misunderstand it. It might create a big conflict if children see that even their parents disagree or argue with the way they are raised and disciplined.

6. Which religion are you going to raise your kids in?

This is one important question you must resolve if you and your partner have different faith and religion.

7. How will you have free time or alone time?

Even when you get married, you need to have separate alone time as a couple. It does not mean that you should be with each other wherever your partner goes. There may be occasions where you need to be present as a couple, but there are also times when you need to be with your friends separately. This is what you call a healthy space. Even if you are living under the same roof and have a family of your own, this space will keep your relationship healthy.

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Asking Someone Out: Subtle Ways to Flirt

August 7, 2017 by
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Going on a first date can be very exciting and nerve-wracking at the same time. Let alone when you are the one who will have to make the first move of asking someone out. If you have been thinking about asking a person out for a date, you definitely have to make at least a little preparation. You just can’t show up to someone and ask them to go out with you, because you might not just hear the response you would like to hear.

Because people love to feel special, admired and wanted, you might want to make sure this is how you make a person feel so that you can get that yes to your invitation. While it is nice to have a nice plan in mind, knowing how to subtly flirt is just equally important.

Here are some helpful tips for the best ways to flirt and asking someone out for a date.

1. Smile and make eye contact

These are the basics of flirting but when you do these things, it will make it easy for people to approach you. That is because when they notice that you look friendly and approachable, they won’t look intimidated. Therefore, they will feel brave to walk over and say hi. In addition, you also will look attractive when you smile, so you definitely become an eye catcher the moment you show off those pearly whites.

2. Write a note

This may be an old practice but it never dies. Passing a handwritten note is still something romantic and an instant charmer. Give it a try and who knows that napkin passed on to your crush might just be your lucky charm.

3. Buy them a drink

A popular way to initiate a conversation is by offering to buy someone a drink. As soon as you get that chance to talk, it is now going to be a lot easier for you to invite them for a date. And if you are lucky because they are interested in you, they will certainly accept your invitation.

4. Pay for their order or their coffee

If you are attracted to someone you probably have seen in a coffee shop, you can get the chance to talk to them by paying for their coffee. This is also a subtle way of letting them know that you are interested. And if they accept it, it only means one thing and that is because the feeling is mutual.

5. Break the ice

If you feel very shy to walk over and talk to someone, just mutter up all the courage you can get and say something. Ask some basic questions like; where they are from or just anything under the sun. You can’t just let this chance go or you may not have it again. This applies to both men and women. If you are a woman, you will actually look more attractive if you can confidently approach a man and strike a conversation.

6. Give a compliment

Giving a person a compliment is also a good way to catch the attention of the person you are attracted to. Everybody feels great when they know that they are admired and appreciated. Making someone feel flattered by your compliment can go a long way. You can say something about their clothes, their look or just anything good that you think is noticeable. If you make them feel special, you are more likely to get that yes.

7. Look for a common ground

When you are finally able to muster the courage to initiate a conversation, try to look for a common ground. This way, when you ask them out for a date, they will be more likely to say yes because they will think that they are sharing some common things with you. They will find it interesting that you have some things in common to discuss and enjoy, so they will entertain the idea of going out with you. When you also find out what they like, it will help you make some plans on what you need to do or where to bring them during your first date.

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I got asked how our site works and here is my answer

August 11, 2012 by


I received an email this week from a new member asking for details on how the site works. I have written my reply to him below as I think it summarises our service very well:

Hi Tony

Thank you for your email.

My apologies for the delay but we have been upgrading the site quite substantially and with any upgrade comes problems!

The ladies on the site are genuinely looking for a suitable marriage partner and use this site to try to find that special someone. We offer different ways of communicating from messages to live video chats so that they can get to know each other and we also arrange visits for you to meet her when you both are ready. We must charge for this as there are internet fees, office fees, translators etc. You will find that my prices are among the lowest because I am genuine and I don’t see the need to rip you off to do it.

We have no registration costs, no monthly subscriptions and no recurring payments. You choose how you want to use the site with no obligation. I am here to answer any questions you have and to assist in any way. The new live chat that we have introduced includes video, audio and text. We are one of the few to do this – but out ladies are genuine and guys are very suspicious.

I can guarantee authenticity because you can see her as you talk with her. We only allow the exchange of details to communicate privately for a fee – otherwise we would be bankrupt in a week – we cant run as a charity when we don’t charge fees. We are also able to monitor that everything is genuine when it is done through the site and this protects you also. Tony, I hope that you decide to join us and to see the value for yourself. Please let me know if I can help in any way

Best wishes
Keith Gordon

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Great Advice on Internet Dating from DW

June 8, 2016 by


A few weeks ago, DW wrote to us and thanked us for the exceptional service he experienced during his recent trip to Ukraine (refer Thank You From DW May 29 2016). Following his return home, DW has written about his experience and advice with internet dating and what worked best for him. He has asked to share this with all members so that they can share the same success and enjoyment that he has achieved.

We thank DW for taking the time to share this advice and hope that it helps members to find their love much more quickly.

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Dating a person online does have some differences compared to dating in real life. These differences become even more pronounced when both of you are from different countries and cultures. In my own journey, I learned a few things that I hope may be of some benefit to others.

Letters: the do’s and don’ts

Consider the following two questions that reveal a person’s character and personality:

⁃ What is your most favourite place in your city?
⁃ What did you learn (about yourself) from your past relationship?

The first question can be answered quite readily and with ease – whilst the latter requires considerable thought and introspection. The first can be a great ice-breaker in a real-life meeting, but the latter may cause a person to feel confronted, under the spotlight and may evoke a knee-jerk response that does not truly reflect the reality about themselves….

Letters, are a great way to ask character-revealing questions in a non-confrontational way:

• A person can take time to think, reflect, gather their thoughts, and respond when they feel ready.
• The foundation built about the discovery of each others character will serve as a valuable stepping stone to feel at ease when you meet that person on video or even in real-life.
• Furthermore, it serves as a cost-effective way to find someone who has a set of values and learnings in life that resonate with your own.

Letters do not always have to consist of thought-provoking questions – it can still be kept light-hearted but provide insight towards the other person’s character, and simultaneously reveal something about yours:
⁃ What are some of your favourite movies? What was your favourite scene in that movie? Why?
⁃ Here is a famous painting, piece of music, landscape, building that I like – what do you think of it?
⁃ Here is a picture of my favourite vacation spot – do you have a favourite place that you like visiting?

A classic mistake is when people use letters (and pictures) to form impressions about a person’s appearance or persona. Here’s why:

• A person’s written persona may be significantly different from their behaviour in social situations. People can be uninhibited about expressing themselves in writing, but introverted in social situations
• We all subconsciously exchange the best photographs of ourselves, where the lighting, smile, pose was captured just perfectly. A picture will never capture a person’s voice, etiquette, table manners. spontaneous response, and so many other facets that form their overall personality.
• Letters only project ONE FACET of a person’s personality The prolonged use of letters can lead to a situation where one or both parties use what they know in
letters, to make assumptions about OTHER FACETS of a person’s personality – which can eventually lead to a huge disappointment if these expectations are not matched in reality.

For this reason, it is important to have a video chat……

Video Chats – why and how to use them effectively

Why video chats, and not a real-life meeting immediately?

A video chat sits somewhere between a real-life meeting and a letter. it gives you some aspects of a real-life meeting to you without the huge financial risk of flights, hotels and interpreter fees. It also is a great stepping stone to overcome the anticipation and tension of a real-life meeting. Due to the relatively low cost compared to a real-life meeting, video chats also serve as a useful check-point to validate whether your desire to meeting each other in real life.

It is important to keep the following points about video chats in mind:

• Some ladies find having a video conversation for the first time with the presence of an interpreter a bit unnerving. It may take 2-3 such chats for a lady to get used to this new experience and be more relaxed. She might need some time to adjust how she interacts with you – e.g. to look at the camera when speaking (and not the interpreter)
• A timed conversation may feel like speed-dating. You both may feel under pressure to simply exchange questions and answers – rather than relax and settle into the conversation. If you schedule a longer duration (1 hour or so), this may help both of you to have a conversations that ‘flows’ more smoothly.
• It may sometimes feel a bit difficult to ‘switch-off’ from what you were doing, and be relaxed and ready to have a live conversation. Your lady may feel this same way too…. so if the first video chat does not go as smoothly as you thought it would – don’t give up just yet. Be patient and give it another chance.

There are a few things you can do to make video chats more effective:

• Ensure good ambient lighting is present – position your webcam in way that, you are looking directly into the camera when you speak. If you are looking in a different direction, it may subconsciously create a feeling of avoidance and disconnect between the two of you.
• Schedule a longer duration than 30 minutes for the video chat – this will allow both of you to relax and not feel any time-pressure to say a lot of things to make each minute count. Remember, you both are not professional actors who can “be in character” on cue. • Do encourage the use of the agency’s facilities (for the lady) for a video chat.
• Agencies have much better network connectivity and equipment setup to make the chat go without any audio/video transmission issues
• There will be an interpreter to translate anything (accurately) should the lady not understand something spoken
• Many issues around the accuracy of automatic text translations can be avoided by the presence of human interpreter at the agency. Plus it will actually make your conversation go much faster and you will derive more value per each minute you pay for….
• Lastly, there is also one BIG reason to use the agency’s facilities…..
It will make your lady comfortable with the (unfamiliar) experience of having a human interpreter present with her when you both meet in real life
• See more about this in the ‘Real Life Meeting’ section below

Real-life meetings – common mistakes and how to avoid them

• After the initial greeting:

The biggest problem that real-life meetings pose is awkward silences….. Once you meet, and exchange pleasantries and compliments about each other… discuss how your day went…..you soon start to realise that you may running low on things to talk about and keep the conversation lively and engaged. You may fall into the trap of looking at menus to avoid eye contact, or even worse…. ask questions to which the answers are ‘Yes’ or ‘No’

The best way to be prepared for this is to ask your lady to bring a small photo album of her life with her. This is a great conversation starter, as you can learn so much about her life, friends, places she has been, highlights of her life – which will give you an abundant supply of questions to ask, and will pave the way for a more interesting conversation for both of you.

• Minimise eye contact with your interpreter:

Sometimes couples end up spending more time looking at the interpreter than each other. And over time, the interpreter gradually becomes the focal point of your visual and auditory senses. This will lead to a feeling of disconnectedness between the two of you.

Instead, turn your head slightly (but not completely) in the direction of your interpreter when you want to communicate something, or when you are receiving a reply. Keep your eyes focused on your lady. Done properly, your lady will also follow your cue and you both will have a more direct feeling of communication while maintaining a respectful acknowledgement of the interpreter’s presence

Explain/Thank your interpreter at the end of the meeting.

• Seating arrangements

It is tempting to sit on the same side of the table with your lady – as it feels more intimate. But, is it really? Think about the previous point – if the interpreter is on the opposite side of the table, how much time will both of you spend looking at each other? You will be looking directly at your interpreter when asking a question, and listening to the response from your lady as well…. And your lady will be doing the same…. and your interpreter will gradually become the focal point for both of you.

For the initial meeting, sit opposite each other – or 90 degrees to each other such that you are still able to maintain eye contact and not have to turn your head too far from each other to hear/speak to the interpreter. As your familiarity with each other grows, you will be able to define your own technique that works best for you …. it will come with time. What’s most important is that, during the initial meeting your interpreter does not become a distraction to give each other your focus and attention. Keep this point in mind, and develop your own approach that works best for you and your lady.

• Revisiting video chats….

Remember the advice mentioned in video chats? This was (probably) the first time you experienced having a date with the presence of a third person. Well, if it feels unusual, well, it felt unusual to your lady too. Imagine having a real-life meeting where you both did not know how to deal with a third person who is privy to your personal exchanges of pleasantries…. If this is your lady’s first experience – the presence of an interpreter will make it feel too daunting. Imagine spending money on flights, hotels, transfers and the experience falling short of what you wanted it to be, because both of you were unprepared for this ‘odd’ dating experience…

• Video chats are a great way to gently get accustomed to this rather unique ‘dating’ experience. This is another reason why you should try and schedule a video chat where the lady will be using the agency’s facilities. You both will gradually get used to this experience, and have one less obstacle standing in your way of having a truly wonderful real-date in life!

• After your first video chat – you both could exchange letters discussing how the video chat experience went for both of you. You could leisurely discuss ideas and suggestions with each other to make your next video chat (with the presence of an interpreter) feel more direct and personal (looking at the camera, making eye contact, not looking at the interpreter). With each successive chat, you both will already have a refined technique that will apply really well for your real-life meeting…….

By now, you probably will have noticed that, letters, video chats, real-life meetings have a common thread that weave them together. One medium does not entirely displace the other – they all serve as necessary stepping stones to make your communication and understanding between each other deep and meaningful in many ways. Members often misuse these mediums for the wrong purposes, without knowing how to derive the maximum benefit of each – and most importantly, understand the strengths and limitations of each.

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Best Online Dating Openers to Get Girls Talking

July 25, 2019 by
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Online dating has become the norm in this modern world. People are becoming busier in life and rely on the convenience technology has provided to find dates. Additionally, online dating is not as taboo as it used to be. Almost everyone has tried this method of dating. Most people are lucky enough to find real relationships online. It’s a really convenient way to meet someone. However, talking to some women can be intimidating. It’s not easy, especially if you are dealing with strong and independent women. Everyone who has been on a dating app site knows that online dating openers are the key to make or break a conversation. There are always so much more you can say, so why limit with just “hey, how’s it going?”

There are some proven things that work when starting a conversation. Successful or failed online dates are determined by conversation starters. It all begins with a “hi” or “hello”. Whether you decide to initiate a face-to-face or online conversation with someone you like, it is always nice to have some great conversation starters handy. A thoughtful reference or question about your date’s interests will most likely result in an exchange of information. This can tell you so much about a person and whether you are compatible or not. The holidays are also good conversation starters and provide plenty of material to talk about. Online dating openers can lead to more interesting and meaningful conversations, amazing first dates, and new relationships.

Men should understand that not all women who choose online dating are there because they like the feeling of having a lot of men to talk with. Some actually would like to meet someone nice and sincere. They are not there just to have online friends or have someone boost their ego. So remember that the moment you start a conversation, it should be directed to the goal of meeting them personally and taking things to the next level.

So how do you get a girl to respond to you online? How do you keep her interested? Here are a few simple yet effective online dating openers you can use:

Traditional Openers

We always start a conversation with “hi” or “hello” which can be pretty boring. Everyone uses it and it has become so casual. Why not upgrade the traditional opener and combine it with a compliment (or even a critique if you are honest enough). You can also add another sentence to the normal ones. That is a great way for her to have something to talk about when she responds to your message. 

An example would be, “Hey, you seem like an awesome person. What do you do in your free time?” So that basically gives her a compliment and at the same time, asks about things she likes. From that opener alone, you will be able to know how compatible you two are. 

Profile Opener

This is pretty simple – use something from her profile (a photo or a description) to start a conversation. Comment about something nice or funny on her bio. React to a funny or interesting photo she uploaded. In the online dating world, people create their profile the way they want to. They choose a photo they believe will attract more people. They make interesting bios to make other people intrigued. 

To make yourself stand out, level up the conversation, as she must have heard the same comments from other people she matched with. Let’s say she posted a photo of her dog. Of course, most would ask her about her dog – what breed, the name, etc. Try to be more interesting. Having a photo of her dog shows her love for animals. You can ask her about the best memory she has with her furry friend. Use open-ended questions that will get her to talk more.

Direct Opener

Basically, this is about being upfront. Tell her directly that you are interested. Let her know your intentions and make her feel that you are not playing around. Or tell her that you are only on the site for “fun”.

If you want to find a long-term partner, it is better to lay out what you want at the onset. Rather than waste your time, why not set expectations at the beginning. Most girls will know if you are only messing around or not. Women are attracted to masculine men and showing clear intentions is a pretty masculine behavior. 

Online dating openers are just guides. The ultimate goal is to meet up personally. Don’t keep the messaging on for too long nor push it too soon. Know the right moment when to set a date for a meet-up. For more interesting ideas about online dating, contact Ukraine Brides Agency.

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5 WAYS TO AFFAIR-PROOF YOUR RELATIONSHIP

July 17, 2019 by

If you are going to affair-proof your relationship, you are going to invest in and commit to the relationship. You are not going to think you can do better than the person you’re with or that somewhere out there in the world is a potential mate who will love and adore you when you want them to, will leave you alone when you want them to, and won’t expect you to meet any of their needs (follow these dating rules to start).

1. THE 6-SECOND KISS

Every time you leave one another, whether it’s to go to work, the grocery store, or the gym, kiss good-bye for six seconds. Not one second. Not two seconds. Six seconds. If you want to make out for two minutes, that’s fine also, but the kiss needs to be at least six seconds long. 

2. DATE YOUR PARTNER

Just because your partner now shares your mailbox doesn’t mean dating should end. Make time at least once each week for a date night. Plan it. Prepare for it. Get excited about it, like it’s the first time you dated. Think of new places to go, new things to experience, and make romancing your partner a habit.

3. GET TO KNOW YOUR PARTNER

Remember when you could talk for hours and you never got tired of learning new things about each other? This doesn’t have to end. There are still things to learn about your partner. Never stop being curious about their inner world. Ask open-ended questions—questions that can’t be answered by a “yes” or a “no.” 

4. APPRECIATE YOUR BELOVED

Find some way every day to show your appreciation and gratitude that this person is in your life. Compliment your woman, thank, admire, show your partner with your words and your actions that you love and value her. Tell your partner you desire them. Do something nice for them.

5. HONOR EACH OTHERS DREAMS

Too often, women will put their own dreams aside for the sake of the family, or the relationship, or because we live in a society where a woman’s dreams are not quite as important—especially if they don’t involve being a wife or a mother. Everyone’s dreams are important. Your dreams are important. Her dreams are important. And research shows that the longevity and success of a relationship depend on each person supporting the goals of the other person because a partner can make or break your career.

For more advice and tips on dating and relationships, please feel free to visit our blog.

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FEEDBACK ABOUT TRIP TO UKRAINE FROM ARTHUR (USA)

June 26, 2019 by

Welcome to Ukraine Brides agency. Here we are always happy to share our latest news with our precious clients.

Recently, our client Arthur from the USA has visited Ukraine and was glad to share his experience with UBA service.

– Dear Arthur, we are glad to see you in Ukraine. And we would like to ask a few questions about Ukraine, your experience and about your trip in general. At the beginning could you please introduce yourself and tell us how did you know about our site?

– Arthur: Well, I’m from the United States (I know it was difficult to guess) from Colorado. I found about this site through the friend I met in Kyiv in 2015 and we kept in touch by email.  I guess I won’t say his name; I know you know who he is. He’s been in your office. He told me about ukrainebridesagency.com. However, being sceptical especially in the level of scams that we are here about. He says that these guys are really legitimate, these guys are real. I dot online and look at this and say hey let me go ahead. Give this a chance, see how it works out.

– Thank you. And is it your first trip to Ukraine or you were here before?

–  Arthur: I’ve been to Ukraine second time. My first time in Ukraine was in 2004 and 2006. Generally saying, it’s mostly vacation leisure. I wasn’t necessary here in Ukraine for a lady. This is more explore thing as I like traveling. And there was a long gap when I was not traveling to places. So my last time in Ukraine when I come back was in June 2015. And I came back several times since then. And especially being on Ukraine Brides and being working outside of the word it is more easy for me to fly to Ukraine and then go back to the United States.

– As I told you before a lot of our clients do worry whether t is safe to come to Ukraine. Could you please share some information, do you feel safe here?

– Arthur: Oh yes, I was kidnapped in the office =) Kidding. I didn’t have any problems. The only thing is I quickly learned is to take taxi drivers. But have never had anybody try to rob me. ‘Course, I mean I’m careful driving anyways. It doesn’t matter what city you are going to in the world every city has its not good parts. But I’ve never had any issues. I’ traveled all over the Ukraine I’ve been to many cities in Ukraine.

– And according to your experience, I see that you are an experienced traveler, and as you told you was here several times – What do think about Ukraine? Could you please share your feelings, your thoughts about our country, what people you met?

– Arthur: People are friendly. I met some coming to Ukraine, I met some a bit of friend. Course some friends I lost. I’ve made some Russian friends, ‘course I’ve been to Russia too. I just met some good friends that I keep in touch with. In fact, some of them I know living in the United States now. I know one lady, she moved from Poltava and she is a friend, she’s now living in the United States with her husband in Montana. I keep in touch with a lot of people. It is easy here to make friends. People here in general very friendly.

– Could you please tell which of our services you have tried? And which of them you like and which you think are not so interesting? Or you would like to suggest something to improve our work?

– Arthur: I’ve used pretty much almost all the services or maybe not all of them, because I don’t like letter writing. In chats, it limits, because you really can build a personality you are not. The video chat I’ve done before. I mean I’m not really can much on video chat, less is Skype you can use and start again. It’s being expansive starting video chat for hours on in. What are the other services? In fact, I travel on my own. I know there are travel services for those who have never been to Ukraine which I would suggest. Somebody has never been to Ukraine and there are skeptical. I was suggesting using Ukraine Brides travel agency – Simply Travel. In fact, I would just spend some time on the request to get the price, but I’ve never done this. The reason is I’ve really experienced traveler. I usually can make some pretty good deals; I mean the less expensive road. But I would suggest for those guys not to waste their nerves on how to get come to Ukraine, they don’t know anything about the language, about the culture. I would suggest for users to use Simply Travel. Don’t think about everything. They can meet you at the airport, they can seat you in a hotel. Somebody will need a local sim card for the phone or if you what they will get you a phone.

– And what about gifts? Have ordered a gift for a lady? Maybe you like delivery?

– Arthur: Yeah, I like the delivery. I did do a gift, not too many times because I don’t really like doing gifts to somebody I don’t know. I could learn that through experience. I have to meet somebody first before I start doing gifts. My recommendations to those who want to send a gift to the lady they have not met yet – Make it simple, don’t go overboard. Because you may meet that lady and she’s not what she is. Cause I even sent a gift for a lady that I brought letters to and even did a video chat with and it even did not work out.so I would suggest to play a safe and wait to meet the lady then she forgets.

– Some of our clients are just unable to come to Ukraine for a meeting after three or four months of communication. And they are really interested in a lady and they want to show that “I appreciate you”, “I’m interested in you” and we also advise them to send to the lady some small gift: some flowers, some chocolate, like this. Something very simple, just to show your attention: “I remember about you”, “I care about you”.

Could you please give advise to our customers how should they act on the site to get success? For example, what did help you more: messages, video chat, real meeting? What was better for you and what would you recommend to our clients?

– Arthur: It’s a hard question. In order, somebody has a success with the lady on a site? I would say first of all for me it should be realistic. If you are sixty don’t think you going to get twenty y. o. It may happen but such cases are pretty rare. I would say I start of a small first like see a lady you might be attractive to. First, send a nudge. See if she nudges you back or reacts on you back. If you don’t hear anything, give her a few days maybe even a week. Send her another nudge, whit a couple of days. If you don’t hear anything, then send an introduction letter. To should introduce yourself to the lady. And if you don’t hear anything after that then probably she may haven’t the interest. She might be kind and nice and send you some kind of respond saying you not the gentleman she’s looking for. I’ve never had such a situation. Usually ladies… they respond… I got some kind work out of there. You can really go there and find the lady you like and book a chat. So she will get a note you really want it, so or book a meeting. If you just book meet with the lady she will just think “this guy just booked a meeting, this guy is serious if he wants to meet”.

– That is really good because a lot of our clients they don’t know how to start, what to start with, send a message, or maybe an introduction or book a chat or what to do. And this is really helpful advice. So, how to go to your dreams step-by-step? How to meet your lady match, then maybe an introduction, then maybe a video chat?

– And another thing is too that a lot of times that I got the case that you just get bombarded with letters and messages. I mean, I have and I just lose track cause a lot of times I can’t be on the Internet all the time, cause I got to work and do things. So, I lost track of the ladies I was interested in and a couple of months later I realize “Oh, this is the lady I really wanted to get to know”. So, in a lot of cases, you probably won’t have sent a message or something, cause a lot of ladies will send you messages.

– Yeah, you can just check the messages from these ladies, check their profiles and choose one or few of these ladies who might be a good match for you.

– Yes, and kind of on a personal note to is when I get so many letters from the ladies and from somebody that I am not really interested in, I kind of feel bad because of that. Well, I can be kind and write her back but it can get expensive though if you got to write back to every lady. So then, I really talking to somebody else right now, but thanks, I mean I do not want the lady to think that I’m ignoring her.

– We have such a button…

– Oh, do you?

– Yes, we have it.

– I did not see that.

– You can, when you open a message from a lady – you have a few options there, and you can send her a message that you are not interested in her right now in such a way that “I’m sorry, but I’m in communication with another woman and I wish you good luck in your search”. And this message is free.

– Oh, okay. See, I never knew that, that is new for me.

– We are always here, as you know we work 24/7, so many of our clients can contact us via LiveChat, Viber, WhatsApp, Skype or email. And it can be even a simple question, any questions – we will answer it in 24 hours after receiving. So, if you just wondering how you can reject the lady’s message without paying for it – you can contact us and ask it. We will answer.

– Okay.

– And how do you think what is the best age difference to create a strong and happy family?

– And that’s kind of a judgment call, I would say. For some people maybe 10 years, maybe the most. For some people it may just be 5 years, for some, it’s like 15-20 or more years. I would just remember that the bigger the age gap the more difference they probably going to have, especially when you get to the generation gap 20+ years. And we talking of generation gap when your goals going to be different from her goals, she is going to want kids, you are going to be older – you already have kids, maybe they are already gone. And she going to want to start a family in most cases. So, I would just keep that in mind. My advice is to be real.

-Yeah, that’s right because it depends on the person and his or her views because sometimes the lady in her thirties’ have a mind of the lady in 20. And sometimes the lady in 20 has mid of the lady of 35 years old. So, yeah, that’s right, it depends on the person that’s first and also, you have to be realistic, that’s a good idea.

– I kind of notice that too. Lady that in her 20ies’, usually, I think different from the ladies in their 30ies’ or 40ies’.

– What do you think of that Ukrainian ladies that you have already meet? Either are they intelligent? How do they look like? Are they beautiful in their age? What do you think about them?

– Oh, they are great, very smart. The lady that I had a date last night – she has 2 degrees, very smart, beautiful and she has some good goals and hard-working. So, I mean I was impressed. Maybe some gentlemen had some bad experience with other ladies, but this lady that I’ve seen – she was a really nice, really kind, mature, good character.

– And one last questions, why did you decide to search for your woman in Ukraine? What attracts you in Ukrainian ladies?

– I get that question a lot, you know don’t you stick with American girls? First of all, I’m always traveling, so a lot of times I’m not even home in the United States. And, so I’m always moving around. My job, you know, inquires me to do that. So, it is difficult, to begin with, to meet American women in general. I meet more foreign women than do American women. American women, their mentality is more progressive, they are more interested, not all of them, there are some good ones, but a lot of them are more interested in a career, not really interested in a family. And for the Ukrainian women are the polar opposite. They are like very interested in family. Sure, they are great hard-workers too and they care about their family and they work and I consider them probably in general more responsible in many cases than Western women.

– Thank you for your time, for your answers. It will be very helpful for our clients and also, us. Thank you very much.

This is great when clients are honest and open-minded people who are happy to share with us, their experiences and appreciate our assistance.

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Acceptable Lies on a First Date

June 5, 2019 by
Man and woman on a date

As a general rule, dishonesty is never encouraged in dating. Well, it does apply in every aspect of our lives. Whether it is your relationship with your parents, friends, significant other or boss, telling lies is a big no-no! However, there will always be times when you’d wish you said something else or probably kept certain things to yourself. Why? Because many times, the truth leads to trouble – trouble which could have been entirely avoided if you told acceptable lies.

Lies, whether they’re the white variety or the kind that come from a bad place, have corresponding repercussions. So when do lies become acceptable? When are you allowed to be less than little honest? For valid reasons, telling lies on a first date is justifiable as long as it’s only temporary and they are not too large. Otherwise, you might find yourself losing that one shot at finally finding the one you’ve been waiting for all because you lied. 

So what are the acceptable lies you can tell on a first date?

Your name

No, this isn’t permission to adopt a new identity. You can’t go from being an Emily to introducing yourself as Charlotte. If you’re looking for a hookup, that’s completely understandable and acceptable. However, if the reason you’re even dating in the first place is to end up in a relationship, it’s an absolute no-no.

What this means is you don’t have to give them your full name. You don’t even have to tell them your given name. If your parents named you Emily, it’s fine if you introduce yourself by your nickname Emma.

So, why is lying a little about your name advisable? It’s because there’s no guarantee that your date will go well or will lead to more dates. For safety purposes, use your nickname. That way, you can avoid creeps who will definitely stalk you online once they get the chance to.

Your address

Lying about your address is also suggested for your safety. You don’t want to run the risk of your horrible date showing up at your door completely unannounced, with a bouquet of roses and chocolates and an apology for insulting you on your first date. Chances are that many of the first dates won’t lead to second, third, fourth, or fifth dates. So, don’t give away your address just yet unless you want unwelcome visitors turning up at your door.

Lying about your address isn’t permission to fake your identity, as well. Don’t tell them you live in an upscale neighborhood just because you want to impress them or feel superior.

Your five year plan

This isn’t a job interview so there’s no need to let your date know where you see yourself five years from now. Yes, your ultimate goal may be to find a loving and happy relationship. However, telling your date that you want to be happily married and become a parent to adorable kids isn’t going to fool them into thinking that you’re insanely attracted to them. Remember this is a first date and not a marriage proposal.

Your culinary preferences

Allergies are understandable and are one of the things that you should never lie about. So, if he offers you a bite of his rotisserie chicken, say no, instead of politely tasting his food. But don’t forget to offer an explanation. Instead of lying to them about how you dislike the texture and taste of chicken, just tell them that you’re allergic to chicken. Trust me. Even if you bring antihistamine with you, it won’t work like magic and prevent you from having allergic reactions.

Your exact job title

No, don’t lie about your job. Don’t say you’re a model when you’re a primary school teacher. Again, this is a date, not a job interview. Instead of telling them what you do for a living, tell them the things you like about the industry you work in.

Your annual salary

This is pretty self-explanatory. Don’t tell them how much you make. Be modest and don’t brag or complain about how much you get paid. First dates aren’t a suitable time to give them a sneak peek of your bank account.

Your thoughts upon seeing their profile

This is applicable when you’re dating someone you met through online dating. Yes, you believe in love at first sight. But you know better than to date someone just because they’re attractive.

Their profiles probably contain a little description of their personality or, at least, how they see themselves. If you found them a little boring and archived their profile to narrow down your choices, but later decided to give them a chance, that’s okay. But don’t give them a detailed narration of your step by step process when selecting who you want to date. Besides, it’s just not polite.

Your dating history

In this day and age, it’s totally okay to go on as many first dates. The logic behind it is you don’t want to miss out on possibly the love of your life. If the night before, you went out on a date with someone else, your current date doesn’t need to know. Exclusivity is decided upon after a few dates.

Your current life state

First dates are meant to be fun. This isn’t your support group where you air out every bit of your dirty laundry for everyone to see. Or even if you met your date in the aforementioned support group, it still isn’t advisable to talk about your life dramas on a date. Whining about life takes the fun and romance out of dates. Show a positive attitude, that’s more attractive.

How much you’ve enjoyed their company

So, the night comes to a close. By now, you’ve probably formed an opinion about your date. If you want to see them again, it’s because you’ve enjoyed the time you’ve spent with them. If you can’t wait to leave that place, it’s because they’re just not the type you’re looking for.

And there’s nothing wrong about that. However, that’s still not a license to tell them that you’ve had the absolute worst time. Politeness can go a long way. Who knows? You might meet them again under different circumstances.

Flattery

Flattering someone or making them feel good about themselves doesn’t always have to be based on a lie. However, sometimes it does. Telling your date they look good or laughing at a corny joke can be acceptable lies on a first date. Regardless of what form it is, a little flattery can go a long way. 

Family relationships

There’s no such thing as a perfect family. Nobody comes from a perfect home. There will always be issues but that isn’t something that should really be discussed on a first date. Avoid talking about your emotional baggage but there’s no need to make up an entire lie. What you can do is to breeze past questions that are a little too personal or emotional, especially when it concerns your relationships with your family members. Save it for the succeeding dates when you two are already comfortable with each other.

Your past relationships

If things work out between you and your date, you will eventually learn about each other’s relationship history. However, first dates aren’t the perfect time to talk about it. Take it easy on the oversharing. In the meantime, just tell them that things didn’t quite work out in the past but there’s no need to let them know how you had your heart broken. At least, not now.

Date location

Some people put a lot of effort into planning a first date. So when your date brings you to a restaurant you’ve tried before, you don’t have to let them know you came there a couple of years ago. Otherwise, you’ll be deflating their confidence and burst their excitement.

It’s also the same when your date has surprised you with an activity you didn’t entirely expect. It won’t hurt to tell them it was a lovely idea even if you don’t think it is.

That you share similar interests they do

So maybe you want to have a second or third date perhaps, but you have no idea about the recent movie they are talking about. And since you’re also into movies, it wouldn’t be bad if you lie a little and tell them you’re looking forward to seeing that movie, too. Who knows, it might help you get a next date at the movies?

How much you’ve stalked them

Thanks to social media, we now have the power to do a little research about someone before meeting them in person. However, even if you’ve already checked their photos, found out more about their interests and know the history of their relationships, be sure not to spill it during your date. Be careful not to drop a hint that you’ve done your research as it might creep them out. Just keep asking questions to sound interested and clueless. Besides, there’s so much more to learn about a person besides the information found on their social media.

How much you drink

If you’re hanging out at a bar on your first date, the best thing to do is to lie about how much you like to drink. No matter how high your alcohol tolerance is, it’s never a good idea to make that known during your first date. Just keep that information to yourself because you don’t want them to think you’re alcoholic or unstable.

How you feel about them

While there are unsuccessful first dates, there are amazing dates, too. However, even if you really enjoyed your time with your date and look forward to seeing them again, you shouldn’t make it obvious. It’s okay to thank them and let them know you’ve had a great time. But that’s it. Do not overdo it and avoid making them feel you got attached too easily. It might just push them away.

First dates are a perfect time to get to know someone better and that is why honesty and truthfulness are expected. However, to make sure you stay away from trouble and help you score a chance at a second date, telling the acceptable lies in this list would be totally fine.

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