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Dating a Ukrainian woman: It’s your responsibility to ensure a great first date

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Many men aren’t very good at making first date conversation because they are nervous. They might treat the first date like a chance to trade resumes with standard questions such as, “What do you do?” and “Where are you from?” There is nothing wrong with these starter questions, but if you want both of you to open up about who you really are, flirt and tell unforgettable stories, you need to be more creative than that. You don’t want to be friend-zoned by a Ukrainian woman and a first date should be something fun and something you actually look forward to. With that in mind, I’m going to introduce some ways to ensure a wonderful first date.

Don’t dwell on the past; don’t focus on the past.

Many people talk about their past on the first date, but that’s a mistake. When you are on a first date with a Ukrainian lady, you want her to see that you have an interesting lifestyle that you enjoy and future plans that you are very excited about.

Talk as if you can’t wait about what’s coming up in the near future so that the lady from Ukraine will become excited as well, for she will want to be a part of that excitement.

In contrast, if you only dwell on the past, she will think that you come with baggage or believe that your best days are already behind you.

Remember: Men who are excited about their future are more attractive; hence, please make sure you have future plans that you can talk about with passion on a first date.

Don’t ignore the basics.

Perhaps you think you already know the importance of eye contact and smiling on the first date, right? I understand these are very basic, but you might be surprised to know that many men don’t even apply them on first dates.

Some men shift their eyes towards the floor or hold their cocktail glass all the time as they are very nervous. Some men hold a neutral facial expression for hours on the first date because they are too nervous to laugh or smile. These are extremely common.

Note that starting the first date with a smile is very important, but many men forget to do it. When you have a big smile on your face, you look more approachable. You become someone who can instantly liven up the date by walking over with high energy and a big smile. Women are attracted to men with high energy – when a Ukrainian lady sees a man with great energy, she changes her mood as well.

Don’t ignore the basics: basics are small, yet they are powerful.

Don’t focus on facts; focus on values.

A date shouldn’t be a job interview. If you only ask factual questions, it will become a job interview or a resume check.

On an ideal first date, you need to find out the kind of woman she is instead of asking her about her previous relationships or her personal details (you will know all of these later if you are going to have a second date with her, but you shouldn’t ask all of these questions on the first date).

You’d better find out where she plans to be in the next three years, or if money isn’t an issue, what would she do for a living. I know these questions sound unusual if you are not familiar with them; however, they are important to the art of stimulating conversations. These questions will get a Ukrainian woman to open up and reveal what she is actually passionate about.

Always think ‘why’ instead of ‘what’. Rather than merely asking what she does for a living and then ending the conversation, you should ask her why she wants to do her job. What motivation is driving her? What excites her?

When you are able to get a Ukrainian lady onto a topic that she is genuinely passionate about, the conversation will open up like you won’t even believe. Therefore, next time when a lady from Ukraine says her job isn’t interesting, don’t linger on that – just get her to talk about what she actually loves doing.

Don’t forget to have some fun.

The goal of a first date is to enjoy yourselves and connect. Don’t forget this priority. Please note that if there is no playfulness, spontaneity, the spark of flirtation and joking, it’s not a proper date. These elements will get her to see herself in a relationship with you and it will make you stand out from the crowd instantly. For example, if you notice that she has an interesting piece of jewelry, you can jokingly speculate on what her jewelry says about her character. Another great idea is to play an interesting game – asking her to choose three words to describe her personality, e.g. artistic, emotional and creative.

What to avoid on a first date?

Never fall into these traps and pitfalls:

#1. Don’t talk about your ex-wives and ex-girlfriends.

Don’t even mention any anecdotes about your ex-girlfriends or ex-wives. No matter whether an anecdote is relevant to the situation or not, the fact that your ex is an interesting topic on a first date will turn a Ukrainian lady off. Even if you tell this Ukrainian woman how much you dislike your ex, you might think this indicates how much you are over your ex, but sadly, you are only doing the opposite.

What’s more, if you indicate that you have left a long string of terrible relationships with your ex-wives and ex-girlfriends, the lady from Ukraine might begin to wonder if it’s you who actually has the problems instead of your ex-wives or ex-girlfriends.

Each time you complain about your ex, you come across as playing the victim. That’s a red flag. When you play the victim, the woman from Ukraine will feel that you still have hang-ups and come with a lot of emotional baggage which she will have to help you through. But that is not her responsibility.

#2. Don’t talk about your insecurities.

Many men have these insecurities: their height, age, hair, weight, and so on. That’s why they accept compliments badly.

Remember: Ukrainian women love complimenting men, but they hate reassuring men.

When you receive a compliment, simply smile and thank her sincerely. You have a right to appreciate the compliment. Yet don’t get her to repeat herself.

Here is a list of bad examples:

  1. “Oh, I’m not handsome at all. There are many more handsome men in this city.”
  2. “Do you really think I’m an attractive guy?”
  3. “I haven’t had a date for a long time because I’m too old.”

The ability to accept compliments is very, very crucial.

“The moment a Ukrainian lady feels like you are deliberately trying to avoid making waves, she will get bored on the first date.”

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