The real reasons behind the current popularity of international dating

October 15, 2021 at 2.13pm by in International Dating
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In today’s day and age, the dating culture in modern western society has several pitfalls, e.g., ghosting, the non-committal nature, etc. Small wonder a lot of men would prefer international dating nowadays!

What has happened to the dating market in western countries?

Here is the reality check – the non-committal nature of the current dating culture in contemporary western society has caused the need for multiple backup plans. That means a woman in a western country usually has Plans B, C & D (she doesn’t want to overinvest in one man as she is actually thinking, “If he leaves, I’ll have somebody else anyway, so it doesn’t matter. I’m not needy!”)

Meanwhile, research shows that about half of the adult population in western society are single right now. For instance, San Francisco has many smart and successful single guys, so women in San Francisco are aware of the fact that there’s an abundance of high-quality men. From an economic perspective, it is clear that when the supply is tremendous, the price falls naturally. Now why would a western woman be happy to marry a good man when she is constantly offered the opportunity to meet and date exciting men?! Clearly, dating in western society is already a numbers game. End of story.

Hence, a large number of men in western society have joined so as to meet ladies from Eastern Europe where people have traditional values and women still respect men. That explains why international dating is commonplace these days. 😊

How to ensure a high-quality first date:

Frankly, the quality of the conversations determines the quality of the first date. Thus, please let me share with you several tips which will surely help you make your first date great.

Firstly, let’s take a look at this conversation:

(Nathan and Riley are on a coffee date inside a shopping center.)

Nathan: “Glad to meet you here. Your eyes are pretty.”

Riley: “Thanks. Glad to see you as well.”

Nathan: “Any plans today?”

Riley: “I’ll need to buy a polo shirt because my boss told me to wear that next week.”

Nathan: “Oh. Okay. Did you get that purse today?”

Riley: “Well, yes.”

Nathan: “Where did you get the purse from?”

Riley: “Ted Baker.” (She is secretly thinking… “Why does he want to know this?”)

This conversation isn’t very good because when you talk with your friends, you wouldn’t ask a lot of questions. Note that questions are certainly not a feature of a wonderful conversation because questions oftentimes turn a date into a dull job interview. As you chat with your friends, the fascinating conversation is actually a natural exchange of statements, opinions and joking. Likewise, if you treat a lady with a similar attitude, she will probably respond in a similar way. 😉

Make the conversations organic, natural and enjoyable.

Firstly, you have to use more statements on a date and avoid asking too many questions. Psychologically, women feel compelled to reciprocate some statements. So, rather than asking “Any plans today?”, you should say, “You know what, today I had a very hectic day, so now I just want to listen to lo-fi in a coffee shop and drink hot chocolate.”

Since your statement is specific and personal, the lady has a lot of things to respond to, e.g., being busy, finding time to chill, lo-fi, hot chocolate, etc. As she has so many options to talk about, she will probably give a valuable and invested response, thereby making the conversation natural and effortless. 😊

Secondly, you’d better ask an indirect question. For instance, rather than asking, “Do you enjoy listening to jazz when you work from home?”, you may say, “I don’t know about you, but I love listening to jazz when I work from home. Jazz without lyrics is so therapeutic. And if I listen to Japanese songs, I can focus on my work as well – I don’t understand Japanese, so it’s not a distraction.” (This is actually an indirect question because “I don’t know about you…” is a hook which will indirectly engage her with your remark. Now she will understand what you say is something that she needs to respond to naturally.)

“International dating has become common now because more and more men have realized that Eastern European women are better candidates.”

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