What is a pattern break and how does it work for your international dating life?

In communication and human dynamics, a pattern break happens any time you say, text or do something that instantly breaks the standard pattern of the normal dynamic between two people. For example, you can break the pattern of a fun and playful interaction by suddenly saying, “Sorry. I know this is a bit random. But right now you look so pretty.” (Your tone is totally serious.) In other words, a pattern break is all about using the unexpected to make international dating more interesting. 😊

• How to use the element of surprise:

The element of surprise takes your partner off-road in a delightfully stimulating and unanticipated manner.

I met my partner at work. When we were sitting in the same office, one day I was blaming him for something that he didn’t do on the computer. I was too dramatic and everyone was embarrassed. In that moment, he asked me, “Are you going to France?”

He broke my pattern all of a sudden.

I realized something very powerful. Please let me explain.

HIM: Is this the right spreadsheet? (A)

ME: You must close the spreadsheet! Otherwise, he can’t edit the document! (B)

HIM: Are you going to France? (C)

In this conversation, A and B don’t even matter because C determines the nature of this interaction.

I was surprised by what he said – he broke my pattern. I realized that I did something wrong & he is a very good person – he is very well-calibrated.

Two years later, I told him what happened in that moment. He was deeply moved. We fell in love and now our relationship is strong.

• Other ways to break the pattern:

In international dating, there are countless ways to break the pattern, thereby making the romantic relationship even better.

You may break the pattern of an argument by slowly walking over & then kissing her passionately. (Chances are the argument ends right there!) 😉

You can break the pattern by calling her by her last name. (When two people are very close, they usually use “honey” or “babe” instead of their first names. But you suddenly use her last name, so it’s very unexpected and so endearing.)

“I hope you enjoy reading this blog post as much as you enjoy international dating at Ukraine Brides Agency!”

Olga P

Olga loves travelling and learning about different cultures. She enjoys taking photos, trying new foods, and spending time outdoors. A skilled writer, Olga is a language enthusiast as well. She enjoys meeting new people from around the world and trying out new recipes in her kitchen.