What not to message a lady online

You spend so much time and energy searching your beloved person, reading profiles, crafting good messages. So when a girl finally replies, you’re having an ongoing conversation, it feels like total success. And it is!

But what if you ask her to meet…and she says, “not yet”? What if you are the only one keeping the communication going?

Maybe she is just looking for attention, or not really interested in meeting someone for real. Do not let her waste your time. You deserve to find a lady who is excited to meet you in person.

So what has changed in the world of online dating since? We have got fancier and more sleek looking apps and websites as opposed to clunky chatrooms. Surely, one of the things any online dater would want to know is what type of first contact message is the most likely to draw a positive response. Should it be humorous, should it be factual, or should you just introduce yourself?

Further, exactly how much should you say about yourself in this message?

So, what not to message a girl online and how to increase your chances of reply to your messages?

1. Pay some attention to what the recipient has said in their profile description to show that you have actually taken an interest in them. Do not just send generic messages. Our site allows users to respond by sending introduce letters and nudges, although this type of communication may also be perceived as low-effort or generic.
2. Do not just make a statement in your message. Ask a question. Asking a question allows someone to respond, which is more difficult with a statement. And use the recipient’s name – it’s friendlier.
3. Be honest about yourself. We know that it is easy to establish a degree of rapport by saying you have similar interests to someone else, but there is really no point saying that you share an interest in collecting strange bookmarks if this is not really an interest of yours.
4. Also, do not write a book instead of a message.
5. Do not cut and paste the same thing to everyone. Watch out grammatical mistakes and punctuation. Ladies like smart men.
6. Do not be overly sexual and aggressive.
7. Make sure you include a call to action or reason for her to reply.

However, we would be glad if you could take these tips into consideration.

We are sure that would help you to start your dialogue successfully. Nevertheless, this awesome article may make your communication and dates with the ladies much easier.

Olga P

Olga loves travelling and learning about different cultures. She enjoys taking photos, trying new foods, and spending time outdoors. A skilled writer, Olga is a language enthusiast as well. She enjoys meeting new people from around the world and trying out new recipes in her kitchen.