Dating can be a bit tricky. It was a lot easier before when gender roles were still clearly defined, but now, it is an entirely different thing. It has now become a lot more complicated.
However, this should not be a reason for guys to just lose hope when it comes to the dating scene. The evolution of the whole dating process does not mean that the objectives have changed. It still boils down to finding the person you would want to court, be in a relationship with, and spend the rest of your life with.
While there are many new things that have replaced traditional practices in courtship, some things also have never changed.
For the guys who want to learn and get advice about dating, here’s a guide that might help you:
1. Make a good impression
If you are going out on a first date, it is important that you make a good impression. However, you also have to pretend to be someone you are not. You do not have to do something very extravagant to leave a good impression, but you just have to look presentable, be courteous and polite, and of course, be on time. You don’t have to try too hard to impress your date.
2. Don’t forget your manners
Remember that a little etiquette can go a long way. Don’t hesitate to give a compliment and mean it. Don’t forget to open the door for her, to pull out a seat for her, to offer your arm when stepping out, and to say “thank you” and “please.” Just make sure that you do not overdo. The goal is that you have to make her feel comfortable and safe.
3. Be confident
When a girl chooses a guy, she chooses someone who is confident about himself. But it does not mean that you have to be proud and boastful. It only means that you are comfortable and capable of holding a conversation with a person you just first met without making her feel awkward. Be confident about everything you are, and be happy about being you; a woman will appreciate it better.
4. Avoid doing all the talking
Make sure that you are not the only one who does all the talking when you are out on a date. Try to keep the things you want to say short, so as to give your date a chance to also share and talk. You do not want to make the experience boring for your date when you are the one she will have to just listen to. Remember that dating is about knowing another person better, so the conversation has to be well-balanced. If your date is not the type of person who really talks a lot, don’t hesitate to ask questions to encourage her to share more things about herself. If she feels that you are paying attention and you are interested, it will make her feel more comfortable to share.
5. Try to keep it casual
You don’t necessarily have to have your first date in a fancy restaurant, just look for a place where you both will be comfortable and at the same time, you can have fun. It might even feel a little awkward if you choose a very formal venue. Also, make sure that you decide on a place that is convenient for the both of you.
6. Avoid discussing your ex’s
It is not really advisable to discuss your ex and past relationship, so it is better to avoid it. The conversation might make things awkward between the two of you. However, if your date is the one who asks some questions about your ex, just answer them politely and make it concise. Try not to lengthen the discussion about that topic any further.
7. Turn off your mobile phone or put it on silent mode
Your date deserves your complete time and attention, so avoid using or looking at your phone when you are together. It will make her feel that you are not interested or not having fun. Keep your focus on your date because she will appreciate it.
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EXTRA TIPS ON DRESSCODE
My personal opinion to make a good impression is not to wear jeans and sneakers. There are some things that can really break or make a date and impression in the first 3 seconds.
Make sure you are tidy, neat and shaved. To give an extra zest to the entire ensemble use a nice men’s cologne. My favorite is Yves Saint Laurent – Homme Ideal or Dior – Sauvage or Bvlgari – Blue.
Make sure you have polished shoes and have a good combination of colors. If you do not know what colors to combine, get yourself an image consultant who can guide you.
IDEAS ON MAN’S FASHION
Look at the Italian style dressing for men. You could find some nice ideas here. I would say that some self-marketing is important because Afterall your date will look stunning and breathtaking for you, so why not do the extra mile and effort.
TIP ON TRY TO KEEP IT CASUAL
Besides the fact of a fancy restaurant, I would personally say that if she means that much to you and you would want to make the moment special and memorable find a place that is quite where you could have a nice conversation and that the atmosphere is serene. Expensive is not always the trick but a restaurant that has good service and good reviews will help a lot. Make sure you know beforehand what type of food she like and do not like and work from there. In the end, it is not about the price of the dish but the moment together which should be enjoyable and pleasant.
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