Slavic women are some of the most remarkable women in the world. Some of the single Slavic women I spoke to recently confided in me that they often find men that are ‘not in the state’ to date.
Many men use “not in the state” as an excuse for not being able to date the woman they like – they say things like, “I’m not in the zone, so I won’t talk to women this week.” Or “I’m not in the state, so I don’t want to approach women right now.” Frankly, if your best results when you are in a particular state are significantly better than your best results when you are certainly not in the state, that means you have to improve your general dating skills, thereby bringing the baseline up a bit!
I think your mental state is simply an amplification of yourself. But you cannot just amplify something you never had in the first place. That’s why I advise you to work on your dating skills, irrespective of if you are in a state or not. When you have better dating skills, your worst performance when you are not in the state will also improve a lot.
If you are keen to date a Slavic woman, please pay more attention to your behavior and make ensuring positive experiences on every date a standard habit for yourself. I would argue that when you focus on taking the effective actions that you already know will give you results, the state becomes the side-effect of the right actions.
What do we mean when we say “state”?
State refers to the headspace of being focused and motivated, so you won’t be distracted easily. Just like your breath, the state is actually quite an involuntary function. In other words, you will be able to indirectly control it through your actions; however, you can’t directly control it. You mostly can’t breathe faster by thinking of it; nevertheless, you can run 5 km to make it happen. As I see it, the “state” happens when you aren’t self-conscious. Ironically, when you try to figure out how not to be self-conscious, that can be the most self-conscious thing about yourself in the world!
In dating & relationships, the more you are stuck in your head, the more “out of your state” you’ll feel.
How to get into the “state”
Because this “state” is so obviously an unconscious result, you can’t enforce it. Instead, you’d better take the correct course of action which would actually get you the results you desire. Interestingly, those actions will probably put you strongly in the “state”!
The more you worry about the “state”, the further away you will be from being in the state because when you assume the performing of a certain action that will possibly get you into the “state”, you are still most definitely in your head. What’s more, trying to check whether or not you are in a state and monitoring your mind will also definitely keep you stuck in your head. My suggestion is not to chase the “state” – you have to allow it to come to you! This is fun and it’s also the right thing for modern men to do if they are interested in international dating and Slavic women.
Ideally, you need to upgrade your physiology. That means you can literally take on the behavior of a guy who is already in the “state”. That is to say, by performing the behavior of a very confident guy, you will enter a state of solid confidence as well.
Now I’d like you to stand in front of a mirror and do this exercise – smile, wink, and smirk for 2 minutes: When you smile, you feel a bit happier. When you wink, you become more attractive. When you smirk, you demonstrate more confident behavior. Sometimes you are just not that happy, but you can fake a smile – just do it for its own sake, for upgrading your physiology improves your dating skills. You are not in the state if you are still wondering whether or not you are in the state.
Slavic women want high-value men.
High-value men are those who act despite challenges and fear, lead with full confidence, take calculated risks and offer comfort. Slavic ladies want to date men who have the real courage to start conversations. If you can approach a woman confidently, that means you were in social situations previously and have had success – that’s social proof!
Slavic women want men who are able to lead an interaction confidently because women want to see if you can do that or not.
Now is the right time to put in some work and become an attractive guy (not after you’ve already met your Slavic lady)! Be sure to check out our dating advice to help you on your international dating journey at Ukraine Brides Agency. Register today!
Olga loves travelling and learning about different cultures. She enjoys taking photos, trying new foods, and spending time outdoors. A skilled writer, Olga is a language enthusiast as well. She enjoys meeting new people from around the world and trying out new recipes in her kitchen.
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