Before starting an international relationship, do you have a jolly single life?

Many people believe that being in an international relationship is definitely better than being single. I remember 13 years ago, I went to an event for single ladies where an expert told me that being in a relationship is absolutely better than being single.

I met my ex-partner 1 hour after that event and stayed married for a few years, but eventually, we broke up. When I was still married, one incident made me realise that I should probably get divorced. I told a friend about it, and she said, “I believe that being in a relationship is surely better than being single.” But at that moment, what she said appeared to be different from what that so-called expert said because my experience had already told me otherwise.

That incident didn’t make me actually leave my ex. What happened after that made me leave my ex, and a series of incidents reinforced the new outcome. As an individual who has experienced both married life and single life, I would like to share my thoughts on the raw truth about being in a relationship and being single. Hopefully, this blog post will help you find a satisfying international relationship.

Your emotions define your solo time

It’s actually possible to feel very fulfilled or totally miserable in any state between being in a relationship and going solo.

Though mainstream culture tells everyone that when you meet the one, your life will make complete sense at last. A typical cultural story even says life doesn’t have meaning without a relationship/children.

For a very long time, I thought I must lock down a long-term relationship by a certain age to prove my worth. This was until I realised that whatever other people think doesn’t really matter. What’s more, other people very rarely think about me.

Learn to enjoy single life

In truth, once you figure out how to enjoy being single and make the most of your single life, you probably wouldn’t even care about finding a partner unless she actually brings good value to your freedom-filled, enjoyable and exciting single life.

International dating is important because it brings joy to you, not because you fear being single. Just because you are single, you don’t really have to date. When you have this mindset, dating anxiety is gone. You can thoroughly explore every passion, completely guilt-free and like every moment of your single life. It’s best characterised by a large amount of highly valuable free time! You can travel, read books, start a new hobby, or even change your career! There is no responsibility over another person’s life when you are single.

Trust your intuition.

Your gut feeling is always right. Last year, I attended a job interview. That job was the right one for me. The right industry (that’s something that I was trained to do), the right location (a 10-minute walk from home), and the right salary were things that I couldn’t complain about. However, throughout that job interview, my gut told me it was the wrong job for me. It turns out that the employer’s intuition also told her that I wasn’t really interested in that job, so the ending was pretty clear. I’m not working for that organisation.

If you are single and dating, be smart about what you do because so many people waste lots of time and energy pursuing bad leads. They date people who don’t even invest in them, spend days waiting for text messages back only to receive nothing, and chase relationships with those who merely want validation.

Trust your intuition in international dating

My advice for those who are looking for international relationships is that if you want to enjoy dating, you should listen to your intuition and trust your gut more about what you want to be true.

If you are not sure whether you are dating the right person, please ask yourself the following questions:

1. Am I genuinely attracted to her?
2. Do I truly like her and respect the way she lives her life?
3. Does she treat me absolutely well and make me feel very special?
4. Do we actually have the same blueprint for the future?

Truthfully, your gut already knows the answers. Your gut knows where you should go, but it’s not easy to follow it. Anyway, you still have to have an important conversation with your gut and then take action. Single men would definitely benefit from trusting their intuition.

Olga P

Olga loves travelling and learning about different cultures. She enjoys taking photos, trying new foods, and spending time outdoors. A skilled writer, Olga is a language enthusiast as well. She enjoys meeting new people from around the world and trying out new recipes in her kitchen.