Effective communication on an online dating site

March 22, 2021 at 10.37am by in Online Dating
international dating

If you meet an Eastern European lady on an international dating website, you need to know how to use text messages to attract her. I’ve summarized some rules for you to consider.

  • Scripts – How to talk to Eastern European women on an international dating site:

If you are very busy, it’s okay to send her fewer text messages, especially at the beginning of a relationship. For example, you barely have time to respond to her message, so you send this to her, “Hi, sorry I missed you earlier. I have been helping my brother move all day and I’m certainly going to need a cocktail when all this is done!”

Alternatively, you can send this to her, “Hello, sorry I missed you earlier. I have been busy helping my brother move houses all day today. Please save me if you can!”

As I see it, as long as you get back to a lady in 24 hours, she will know you are interested in her. But if you wait for too long, she may lose interest because you probably have competitors on the same international dating website – if you find a woman attractive, chances are other men also find her attractive. Thus, you should be more proactive and shouldn’t play hard to get.

Another good example is: “I had a great time in the cinema tonight. Thank you for recommending this movie! It’s seriously perfect!”

If she likes you, she will probably send you a message within 2 days.

If she doesn’t send you a message for some reason, you can send her another message along the lines of, “I just found that beautiful song we were talking about the other day. I’m really grateful because it’s the perfect song for my sister’s birthday.”

  • What not to say when you are sending messages to Eastern European ladies:

First and foremost, if you are joking in a bad way, you’d better stop joking. Joking shouldn’t be overdone. When it’s overdone, your perceived value will become lower. Here is an example:

HER: “The video chat with you was amazing. I hope to do it again sometime soon.”

HIM: “Oh, indeed. It was wonderful. Remember when I joked about your eyebrows?”

HER: “Ha! Yes. That was fun. You have a good sense of humor.”

HIM: “Is this your way of changing the topic as you don’t want to talk about your eyebrows?”

This joke is childish and totally ignored the lady’s compliment. This guy didn’t flirt with her effectively; instead, he kept the chat at the same jokey level which isn’t meaningful at all.

In my view, it’s fine to begin with a joke; however, you shouldn’t get stuck in this jokey mood for too long. An effective conversation needs to have a rhythm.

Let’s have a look at another example (you may identify what went wrong here):

HER: “I look forward to having another video chat with you next week.”

HIM: “Yep, but only because I was telling you jokes during the video chat, right?”

HER: “Perhaps yes, but also a bit because I’d like to see you again.”

HIM: “Don’t be cheesy. That only reminds me of those jokes. LOL”

Note that by batting away the Eastern European lady’s attempt to open up to you, you are slowing down her attraction. You are putting yourself in the friend zone – who wants to be in the friend zone on an international dating site? Nobody.

Every Ukrainian woman likes a guy with a good sense of humor. Actually, it’s many ladies’ top criteria for a great guy. However, having a good sense of humor doesn’t mean turning every detail into a gag. I mean you can make a funny joke every few messages; nevertheless, it’s better to balance it out with affection, love and warmth.

Another bad example is, “OMG. I just ate dis amzing cake near my plce. U hav to try it sometime. LOL 😛 ^.^ X”

This text message looks like something written by a 14-year-old child on a sugar rush. Remember: a sophisticated woman doesn’t like using too many emojis and certainly doesn’t prefer a guy who can’t spell!

My suggestion is to use emojis sparingly. You can save the emoji-filled, lazy text messages for your friends; don’t use these on an international dating website where genuine ladies from Ukraine are looking for love.

A sophisticated woman who reads messages that look like something written by a teenage boy will be fearful of introducing you to her family and more respectable friends.

There is another bad example (all men must avoid this):

HER: “I just made a cake with my mother this afternoon.”

HIM: “Great. I love cakes.”

HER: “Should I make one for you when you come to visit me? Which icing do you prefer?”

HIM: “Chocolate.”

This conversation is uninspired and boring. Remember that you should add value to the conversation and shouldn’t be the blank wall.

“Messages should be about building emotional connection and showing snippets of your character.”

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