It turns out that being instantly likeable is a skill that can be learned. Obviously, most men understand that they become likeable when they know how to give compliments to women. But in reality, this secret sauce is more than that.
Tell women what you like about them.
There are several ways to pay a compliment correctly. First of all, you may pay a Ukrainian woman a second-hand compliment – When you visit our office in Ukraine, you can tell us that a certain Ukrainian lady that we’ve introduced to you is great, and then we will be able to say this to her, “Anthony speaks highly of you.” Second-hand compliments are usually very powerful because a third-party review is hard to fake. Next, you can pay her an introductory compliment – When you take your Ukrainian girlfriend to a party, you can say this to your friends, “This is Olga. Olga is an amazing lady who is very passionate about literature.” In this way, you are showing her character traits, i.e. something that only she has. In this case, you may also consider mentioning something rare about her, “Here is Olga. Olga has got great taste when it comes to literature – she is an avid reader.”
Of course, you will benefit from the dead-pan way, i.e. imbedding a compliment in a long talk. For instance, when you are on a date with your Ukrainian woman, you can talk about the books that you’ve read, and then you say, “Incidentally, I like you because you are similar to the lady from Girl with a Pearl Earring – so pure and innocent.” I’m pretty sure your lady from Ukraine will want to read that book as well because she becomes curious about your rich inner world now.
When you are hanging out with your lady’s friends, you can compliment your girlfriend indirectly and it will go back to her. So, you can say this to her friends, “She is the most interesting woman I’ve ever met, but don’t tell her.” I’m pretty sure her friends will tell her about it ?
How to be actually interesting:
In order to be interesting, you need to be interested in others in the first place. Remember to maintain eye contact while listening to your Ukrainian lady. Don’t look away because of distraction. In this way, you will make her feel interesting. When she shares her hopes and dreams with you, you must believe in her hopes and dreams with her.
A useful question that you can ask yourself is, “How can I find this person interesting?” It’s about your ability to discover her inner beauty over time. This is a bit like deciding you like someone – you should see the best in her. Liking someone is the quickest way to be liked.
Apart from that, humility is also very important. You can choose to be genuinely humble (downplay) or to be playfully humble. In other words, if you mess up, it can actually make you more likeable at times – when the situation is slightly embarrassing, it’s all about being human.
Moreover, being genuine will also make you a likeable man. Remember to say what you believe by using these phrases: “The truth is…” and “To be honest, …”
When you meet a Ukrainian lady for the first time and it’s time to end the date at its peak, she probably doesn’t want you to walk her home, so no matter how playful you have been on this date, you can ask her, “Seriously, do you know how to go home from here?” And then you can become playful again after this question. This will make you look interesting instantly.
Finally, you may talk about weaknesses in an endearing way. For example, if your Ukrainian lady asks you, “What is your biggest fear?” You can say this to her, “My biggest fear is spiders. Don’t tell anyone about it because it’s embarrassing.” Now she will be amused.
Build instant emotional strength.
In human interactions, you need to be willing to get hit! When someone throws a curveball to you, your reaction to them matters. No matter what, don’t lose your frame. If a person gives you a negative reaction, you would be well-advised to understand that their reaction is determined by three factors: 1) their history; 2) their current mood; 3) you. In the dynamics, their history is the most important factor. Your frame can override their current mood. Sustained frame can override history. Therefore, all the stuff that you’re worried about doesn’t even matter.
Your counter-reaction is the most important part in an interaction, so don’t worry about people’s reactions; you should think about what you do next.
If you give more energy, you can feel more energy. When someone disrespects you, you need to slow down and question them. Don’t react emotionally because getting emotional means losing control. Remember: negative emotions are the enemy of impact.
Build a VIP social circle.
If you are interested in building a VIP social circle, you should go to a new place while leading with your high energy. This alone will show your impact. Note that you never know who you will meet.
When you are at a networking event, make sure you treat everyone the same because your energy and positivity should not change. Having said that, you are not supposed to kiss anyone’s ass. What you need to do is to add value – what value can you add to someone else? What are their motives? Are you suggesting the element of competition? Show them doing this is the easiest thing (no effort, no friction).
Interestingly, when you have a VIP social circle, women from Ukraine will find you more interesting because you are a high-value guy with powerful friends. Hence, you should totally make a commitment to the number of times you are going to go out (this can happen during the day or at night). Say yes to all sorts of things (even things you wouldn’t normally do). This will expand your outlook quickly. When you are attending an event, exchange details with everyone you meet and then follow up to consolidate the relationship (usually, you should send them a text message within 24 hours).
Ukrainian women like men who have a powerful network as that indicates social proof, so you may even reunite people you met before and arrange some get-togethers and parties. Sometimes you may wonder how you can add value to other people’s lives. Well, in fact, offering your contacts is great value to add.
If you are wondering how you can add value to your Ukrainian girlfriend’s life, here is my advice: 1) explore her lesser-known qualities; 2) give her fun. These days fun people are in short supply, so just have fun with her when you are on a date.
“Keep offering value at the beginning stage of a relationship. You can invite her somewhere cool or send her a website/video/contact that could help her.”
Olga loves travelling and learning about different cultures. She enjoys taking photos, trying new foods, and spending time outdoors. A skilled writer, Olga is a language enthusiast as well. She enjoys meeting new people from around the world and trying out new recipes in her kitchen.
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