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Whenever a lady sees a man she is interested in she sends him a letter hoping that he will read it, like what she has written and that he will be similarly interested and write back to her. When there are thousands of ladies on the site her chances can be slim.

For this reason, some ladies can go to extreme measures to be noticed including sexually suggestive letters that grab the attention. Most of the time these types of letters are not welcome and actually succeed in driving the man away from the site – he thinks the site is not genuine.

This is very sad for the majority of ladies on the site who are very genuine and who would not stoop to those levels to attract attention. When the men leave the site because of the actions of a few ladies, their chances of finding love are diminished even further for the genuine ladies.

To offer all ladies an even playing field, we have made it compulsory for every lady on the site to have a pre-approved introductory letter. She can only use this letter to contact a man for the first time.

We have set up the introductory letter for each lady based on the profile that they have loaded and they all follow the same format to start with. If you receive introductory letters in the next few weeks they will seem similar – not the words, but the layout.

An example is “Hi, I am Anna and I live in Kiev. I have blond hair and blue eyes and I am a hairdresser. I have 1 child and I am interested in marriage and friendship. My interests are…….” You can see from this example that what we have done is select keywords from their profile and inserted them into the letter layout. Please don’t think that all ladies are suddenly writing the same letters.

We have asked the ladies to edit their introductory letters to make them more appealing and professional and the ladies will be working away on this, so they will change over time. Each time they change their letter it is sent to us for approval.

This will prevent the current situation where a few ladies are sending letters that are inappropriate and portraying the wrong message about the site, the ladies on the site and how genuine we are about what we offer.

If you write to a lady, send her a nudge or chat with her before she has sent you her introductory letter, then she is free to write to you normally, she does not need to reply with her introductory letter.

In the last few months we have restricted the ladies that can contact you by ensuring their age falls within your ideal lady age range, she falls into your categories of marriage, friendship or fun and we have limited the number of times she can send you her introductory letter to once a month. This means that any letter you receive is from a lady who fits into your search criteria and is not wasting your time.

You are free to search outside your criteria and contact any lady that you want – but that choice is yours, not hers.

Postscript…. since writing this email in preparation for sending, hundreds of ladies have started writing their own personalised intro letters. Here is an example that shows what they can look like with some effort:

subject Those 3 most beautiful words!;))
Let me start my letter by showing how affectionate, sunny and optimistic I am.;)) My glass is always full of something delicious and I believe that any place is great when shared with your beloved. I heard many happy stories of finding Love abroad and came here in the hope to become so lucky too. Do you believe in fate, by the way?;))

Concerning my job I am an economist in the bank. I deal with clients and help them when they have any problems. So, being open-minded, social and friendly helps me a lot in my work.:)) In fact, I should say that I have two educations. The first one is a teacher of English and the second – economist. I am not afraid of any challenges that future could prepare for me. I am sure that I will adapt myself easily to a new place and it would be fun to learn the language of my beloved man.;)))

If I have free moment, I can enjoy meeting with friends, going to some interesting places or just getting pleasure from snuggling under the covers of the bed and watching a movie or listening to good music. By the way, my favourite movies are the “Father of the Bride” and “Father of the Bride- 2”.:)) Have you ever watched these wonderful romantic movies??? What are yours?

I think that it is the biggest delight in our life when we find our beloved and say those 3 most beautiful words!!! Right?;))) That’s why I came here in the search for that special man who will make my heart bloom with his love, who will enjoy being together whether we will have the great dinner in the luxurious restaurant or just some tasty food cooked at home, who feels ready to be happy taking care of his wife and family, and of course, who is eager to find immense joy in receiving my love and tenderness each day… Do I want to much? How do you think? … If you wish the same, then, please, make my heart beat faster from your letter!!!;))

With many happy smiles, Marina.;)))))

Nadezhda K

Nadezhda is a romantic who enjoys writing poetry and painting. She loves travelling and experiencing different cultures. In her free time, she volunteers at local shelters, practices yoga, and loves quiet moments with a good book and a cup of herbal tea.