Handling Cultural Differences in International Dating

A few days ago, a gentleman asked me, “I’m going to meet a Ukrainian lady that I’ve been chatting with on this international dating website for quite a while. Now I’m a bit concerned because I’ve been separated from my ex-wife for a long time – but I’m not officially divorced. If I tell the Ukrainian lady that I’m not legally divorced on our first date, she might be put off by that, so what should I do?” In order to help more men who are in the same situation, this gentleman has given me permission to share my answer to his question with you on this blog.

I hope you find this article helpful.

My first suggestion for people who would like to try international dating: Emotions before facts.

When you meet your lady in person, please manage her emotions before talking about facts.

That means you influence her mood first, and then her mood will influence her mind.

For instance, you take her to an artistic café where the lighting is soft and the ambiance is cozy. You flirt with her playfully.

While listening to the romantic background music, you pause to create chemistry.

If she asks you why there is a pause, you say, “Listen to this song.” And then you silently look at her eyebrows, her eyes, her nose, her lips, and her eyebrows again…. Your eyes are slowly, gently ‘traveling’ on her face, which is an effective way to build unstoppable attraction and massive chemistry under the radar. Note that your eyes can have some ‘drunk’ effect as this technique is called “dreamy eyes”; however, you can’t laugh or smile too much in this process – perhaps you only smile a little bit. Meanwhile, your attitude is completely relaxed.

She has seen enough romantic movies to understand what that means, so now she is in the mood for romance, which is exactly what you need to prepare for the next step.

What to say to your Ukrainian lady:

As you reckon that her mood is happy and positive, you start to talk about facts.

You say something along the lines of, “I highly value honesty and I respect you. I have to share something with you. I never had a chance to tell you this in person before. I’m separated from my ex-wife, and we are going through a divorce. In Western culture, separation means breakup because divorce is only the final legal step. So, when people are separated in the West, they are allowed to start new relationships with others. That’s why I seriously consider my relationship with you as a meaningful, long-term relationship. And I’m sure we will build a very good future together.”

Read your Ukrainian lady accurately.

You need to assess her personality.

Is she an extrovert or an introvert?

Is she open-minded or not?

How experienced is she in terms of dating and relationships?

Frankly, if she is an ambitious woman who likes challenges, she might find “I’m separated from my ex-wife, and we are going through a divorce” quite exciting and stimulating because that means she is better than your ex-wife (if she is a competitive person). What’s more, as you were married before, pre-selection works pretty well for you now: another woman chose you already; therefore, you must be a high-value guy.

As a result, from this Ukrainian woman’s perspective, your perceived value is higher. That is to say, you can even use this obstacle to your advantage and increase your perceived value instantly.

The summary: mood à mind à perceived value

Hopefully, this helps with your international dating journey! Navigating cultural differences may be difficult, but with some honest and open communication, we’re sure you can smooth over these easily.

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Olga P

Olga loves travelling and learning about different cultures. She enjoys taking photos, trying new foods, and spending time outdoors. A skilled writer, Olga is a language enthusiast as well. She enjoys meeting new people from around the world and trying out new recipes in her kitchen.