How To Intelligently Handle Rejection In Dating and Relationships

In dating and relationships, being rejected could be a self-fulfilling prophecy. It’s very easy to come up with a narrative based on a few rejections where you tell yourself that nobody in this world you like could like you back. Please realise that attraction is not a choice and chemistry is always a two-way street. You think it’s a mystery why she didn’t respond. However, she might just be good at acting that way with everybody. You might go away with a story of rejection and failure. Nevertheless, it might not be true. If you are attractive to anyone at all, it usually means you can attract a lot of people, including those you are interested in. 

Do not overvalue a person when you have had a fun date.

Please don’t overvalue when you have felt some attraction or chemistry and place too much significance into the initial communication. 

I’d like to give you a key idea: the less superficial you make contact during the early interactions, the less easy it is for women to dismiss or ghost you. That’s exactly why having video/audio chat online is paramount when it comes to dating and relationships.

“I was dating a woman for almost three years, which was truly an emotional roller coaster. Nevertheless, she wouldn’t introduce me to her family and friends officially as her boyfriend. Frankly, I was not expecting a wedding either. In the end, I broke up with her because she was cheating on me. However, I didn’t let it go completely. Within four weeks after our breakup, she met a new guy and had already made him her official boyfriend on social media. Now I’m very sad because that made me feel like I’m not good enough,” says Vincent. “In the past, I saw red flags, yet I definitely overvalued the connection, so it’s difficult to move on, and this has deeply hurt my confidence and self-esteem. Now could you please tell me how to stop feeling like I am not enough?”

“I don’t think you need me to repeat everything that you clearly know about this woman—cheating, showing off her new partner,” I explain to Vincent. “Because of her behaviour, you already know she is not good enough for you because she doesn’t respect you at all. Now the more important part is what you undervalue. Unfortunately, you allowed that to happen for almost three years while noticing red flags. Now you still don’t feel that you are good enough, even when she is obviously not good enough for you.” 

After a rejection, you may feel very sad. What I’d like to point out is that even if a woman is great and decides that she doesn’t want you, she can’t speak for everybody else. If she wants somebody else, that certainly has no bearing on how the next woman will feel about you.

In dating and relationships, one person not wanting you isn’t the final judgement on your worth.

Please note that someone not wanting you is only a judgement on how much that one woman values you. If you don’t get into dating and relationships with a very different idea of what you are worthy of, you might fall into another trap with a new person. Now it’s up to you to decide that you will not put up with ambiguity and emotional manipulation from a woman who runs this kind of game again. As I see it, the real danger won’t be never finding a woman who is good for you; the real danger is if you spend too much time with the wrong women who treat you as less than you deserve in love.

I’d like you to answer these questions honestly: 

• What were the specific red flags in your previous relationship?

• What did you do to ignore red flags completely?

• What are you going to do in the future to better protect yourself from being hurt again?

In fact, you don’t have to fear red flags if you are able to act when you notice them. Some people might cause you pain. Nonetheless, you will merely suffer in the long term if you allow them to do that. Please don’t give them that type of permission.

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Olga P

Olga loves travelling and learning about different cultures. She enjoys taking photos, trying new foods, and spending time outdoors. A skilled writer, Olga is a language enthusiast as well. She enjoys meeting new people from around the world and trying out new recipes in her kitchen.