Dr Joe Dispenza famously said, “Your personality is your personal reality.” This is absolutely true because your life is literally shaped by your personality. Frankly, your education, career, love life and social circle are all determined by your personality. If you have a strong, amazing, and confident personality, it will be easier for you to navigate international dating as well.
Always Remember That You Have Options When It Comes To International Dating.
Please let me start this section by sharing a true story with you.
When I was in my early 20s, I was made redundant due to the economy in 2008. Then I became a retail sales assistant in a big organization in New York City. Sadly, my managers in that organization were very difficult people (I’m sure they are still difficult people today). Everyone on my team resigned except me. My managers were worried that I might resign as well, so they were very paranoid. As a result, one day I said to them, “You hired me when I had nowhere to go, so I am very grateful for the only job that I can have and I really appreciate you.” Then my managers were very mad at me because they thought I applied for that job simply because I couldn’t get a job.
Thus, I had to explain that I actually love fashion retail. Anyway, after that, their attitude changed dramatically. They were not paranoid anymore. Instead, they were assuming that I would never resign. Therefore, although they gave me the sales manager’s position, they didn’t allow me to interview/hire staff members for my team. What’s more, they only gave me embarrassing excuses to justify their decision. They hired a guy who had 7 jobs in the past 2 years on his resume and had been single for at least 40 years.
This guy was my staff member, but he didn’t respect me at all. He was harassing me, and I had to do his work for him because he was extremely lazy, inept, and sleazy. One day he stole my customer, though I had politely spoken to him about why he shouldn’t do that. He even spent 45 minutes chatting with the customer that he stole from me. This was after that customer had already paid at the register just because that customer was a woman. That means he left after his shift had already ended, so the store manager (my manager) thought he was incredibly hardworking. He was bragging about his big sale in front of the store manager, so I said to him, “But you took my customer.”
The store manager spent 2 weeks telling me off because I wasn’t polite enough to that guy. In the end, I had to tell her that he was actually harassing me for months. That was the only way to get the store manager off my back. I asked the store manager not to report him because he stopped harassing me after I challenged him.
Unfortunately, the store manager and the senior manager both reported that guy to the head office. When the head office advisor talked to me on the phone, I tried my best not to report that guy due to fear of revenge (I had told all of them that I had a fear of revenge, so I didn’t want to be involved in this and I didn’t want to report him.) That guy denied what he did during the investigation meeting. What’s more, he reported me for being aggressive to him. He exaggerated what I said to him in front of the store manager and made many other things up.
The head office advisor changed her attitude completely. This was partly because the head office advisor realized that I didn’t tell her the full story in terms of the harassment, and partly because that guy reported me for bullying him instead (and she believed him). As a consequence, the head office advisor started an investigation meeting with me. I told her that I didn’t apologize to that guy because I didn’t want to do his work for him again, and I couldn’t admit things that I didn’t do.
Strangely, the head office advisor insisted on asking me to move to another store of that company, although I said that I didn’t want to move to another store. During the final meeting, when the head office advisor gave me a formal warning in writing, I told her that I had decided to resign.
That was shocking from my employer’s perspective because they thought I had nowhere to go. Hence, their attitude changed immediately and they desperately wanted to keep me. However, I made my decision already. I told them that their strongest competitor in Los Angeles approached me before all this drama happened.
That is the power of having options – the ability to walk away.
Similarly, you also need to have options in international dating. When you have good dating skills, you will have options that help you to build your self-esteem and confidence.
Always have a relaxed look and a strong inner core.
When you are on an international dating site, please remember to have a relaxed look. It will make you look like you can be approachable. Indeed, when you look laid-back, women find you more easygoing, so they are more likely to open up to you.
More specifically, you are supposed to strike a balance between masculine energy and feminine energy. That is to say, you need to look more laid-back and relaxed (feminine energy). All the while, your boundaries, standards, and core confidence are solid (masculine energy).
Please note that feminine energy in men is actually very powerful. Everyone has both masculine energy and feminine energy, no matter whether they are male or female.
In conclusion, the right combination of masculine energy and feminine energy is the key to success in international dating and relationships.
“You have to be more approachable on an international dating website.”
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Olga loves travelling and learning about different cultures. She enjoys taking photos, trying new foods, and spending time outdoors. A skilled writer, Olga is a language enthusiast as well. She enjoys meeting new people from around the world and trying out new recipes in her kitchen.
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