International dating: How to be sweet on a date

January 18, 2021 at 1.08pm by in International Dating
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Every romantic comedy teaches you how to be a good partner: You are supposed to be urbane, witty, elegant and sophisticated. Hence, everybody wants to look like the perfect partner on their online dating profile. Yet very few people actually pay a genuine compliment in conversation, so sweetness is underrated nowadays.

  • How to pay a genuine compliment:

No matter it’s online dating or offline dating, more and more people choose to impress others through their university degrees, careers and status rather than making a genuine connection. This is so sad but so true.

Let me show you some good examples of paying a genuine compliment that builds a real connection:

  1. “You read Liane Moriarty’s books? I love that!”
  2. “I’m very impressed with your love of jazz.”
  3. “I rarely meet someone so interesting.”

People don’t want to pay genuine compliments because they are unwilling to put themselves on the line. However, people like those who actually see something special/unique about them.

Indeed, when a person gives some recognition for your passion, praises your lifestyle or notices a fun part of your character, you remember that for a very long time.

Paying a genuine compliment doesn’t cost you anything. It only makes you unforgettable. Truthfully, a confident and genuine compliment will make you look very cool and in control because it is real & you don’t have an agenda.

Yes, when you see a Slavic woman’s warmth, that moment is memorable. When she looks out for your comfort, you remember her polite gesture. That means you are dating a sweet lady.

That being said, if you put yourself on the line and she doesn’t appreciate it, then you don’t need to give her a second date. End of story.

In every interaction, you should lead with the energy that you want and leave those who don’t reciprocate. You create your own beautiful bubble, your happy reality.

You are supposed to give sweetness generously. When you know a woman doesn’t respond kindly, you also know it’s time to move on. There are many other candidates.

  • How to have a better relationship (or how to make your next relationship better than your previous relationship):

If you ended a painful relationship and now you are looking for love again, you might wonder how to make sure that your next relationship won’t look like your last relationship, right?

First and foremost, you have to figure out what behavior you will not put up with anymore in the future. Simply write down the behavior that you will no longer tolerate. And then ask yourself, “What fears and frustrations made me accept that behavior in the past? Which red flags should I be aware of? Why will I never, ever settle for this type of behavior again in future?”

My friend Ashley says his low self-esteem and fear of being alone led him to accept bad behavior in the past. He wanted to find a partner simply because he wanted to fit in – he didn’t want to be single and then feel judged by other people. He was very unhappily single. He was insecure and miserable.

Now Ashley knows the main issue that he must avoid in the future.

Do not stumble from one messy relationship to another. Be smart. Learn from your mistakes. Do not miss out on the valuable lessons.

Secondly, you must be happily single before you can be happily married. Dr. Peter McGraw has a unique podcast called Solo: The Single Person’s Guide to a Remarkable Life in which he talks about why being single is actually great – it’s literally perfect for many people nowadays.

If you decide to be single for now so that you can improve yourself and get ready for the next relationship, you should totally listen to that podcast!

Thirdly, you are a changed person now. Today you are the new version of you because you are armed with new skills and knowledge that you didn’t have.

Frankly, your ‘failed relationship’ isn’t really a complete failure because if you actually, carefully think about it, you would know that you’ve learned a lot from that relationship – you’ve changed because of that experience – you are a different person now because of your ex.

Lastly, you would be well-advised to act as if you are already the person that you want to become. You should visualize a compelling future.

“If something isn’t right, you must say no confidently. Speak up. Protect your energy. You are the most important person in the universe.”

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