How to make a relationship with a Ukrainian woman enjoyable

December 29, 2019 at 9.12am by in Slavic Women
marriage with a Ukrainian woman

A serious relationship doesn’t have to be intimidating. In fact, it can be very enjoyable if you know how to manage it well. Let’s say you are dating a very intelligent Ukrainian woman and you feel intimidated by her intelligence. Now you can tease her about her intelligence – next time when you go to a party with her, you simply say this to friends in a playful way, “Anna is intelligent. She doesn’t like to talk to us anymore.” Of course, people can see it’s a joke 😊

When you feel nervous in front of your high-value Ukrainian lady, you should act like you don’t need what she has (then you won’t become needy).

The easiest way to feel worthy when you are dating out of your league is to be spontaneous and do things that she is afraid to do. In this way, you can increase your perceived attractiveness, perceived value & perceived challenge immediately.

I remember Gary Vaynerchuk wrote a book called Jab, Jab, Jab, Right Hook: How to Tell Your Story in a Noisy Social World in which he talks about give, give, give… and then ask for something. Although his book is about business development, this theory also applies to dating and relationships – you have to play the slow game and then you will get much bigger rewards as a result.

Don’t become a social hub and don’t arrange a party if you are an introvert, but you should be close to hubs.

A social hub is someone who organizes parties regularly – this individual knows a lot of people and has a powerful network. If you want to make your relationship with a Ukrainian woman enjoyable, you would be well-advised to take her to parties at times.

I understand that many men are introverts, so arranging a party isn’t ideal for them. Also, being a social hub looks like a full-time job. Therefore, if you are also an introvert, you should totally be close to hubs. Go to their parties: show up and be fun.

When you walk in a party and start talking to people, your Ukrainian wife will notice that you are socially aware of what’s happening and you are able to connect with others in a friendly way. She will find you more attractive because of that. Also, when you can talk to people at ease, the hub will want to invite you to their parties in the future because now they know they don’t need to baby-sit you. Make friends with the hub’s friends. Compliment the hub. Dress appropriately. Introduce yourself to the center of the party. Offer them everything you can. This creates synergy – ask yourself, “How can I genuinely offer something?” Remember: no friendship/relationship lasts where there is no win-win.

Moreover, you can learn how to work any room so that you can socialize with people easily. I’d like to encourage you to interact with ten people within the first 5 minutes when you arrive at a party. Have a traveler’s mindset, even though you are staying in your local area. If others are in groups, you can touch one person’s shoulder and say, “Excuse me, sorry to interrupt. Did you just eat here? Any recommendations?” And then feel free to leave the conversation.

Whenever I go to a party, I always get there early so that I can plant seeds first before the crowd come. I always have in mind my unique selling points (USPs) – I know I have a pleasant personality and I look quite artistic. I also quickly find a way to talk about what I’m passionate about or what they are passionate about. I always think, “What are they up to? What is their favorite thing about it?” Therefore, whenever I’m introduced to someone, I often ask, “What’s your favorite thing about being a lawyer/accountant/teacher?”

Please be aware of the fact that in your Ukrainian lady’s opinion, the perceived potential is probably more powerful than the present reality. That means when she knows you are able to connect with people at ease, she notices the potential of this relationship because your luck is determined by who you know to a large extent. Indeed, passion and certainty are important (especially certainty which is the sexiest thing in the world). When you speak with certainty, people follow. Thus, everything you say should carry that certainty – people follow certain people.

How to become unfazeable:

Now I’d like to talk about the secret to becoming unfazeable. You will build your inner stillness after reading this article. Congratulations!

First, you should move slowly. This alone will make you calm and confident on surface level at least.

When your Ukrainian wife throws a curveball to you (she will at some stage in this marriage because life is a long journey), you need to divide your focus, thereby building your internal stillness – ask yourself, “What is important to me outside this situation/curveball?” Make something else more important so that you won’t react emotionally.

Another way to become unfazeable is to do something every day that scares you. In this way, you will be desensitized through exposure to risk. Remember: repetition creates stillness.

As to your external stillness, you should slow down and maintain your power. Be prepared to disagree with someone. You don’t get liked by being weak in negotiations. Please note that in negotiations, there are several key points to implement:

  1. It’s not just splitting the difference.
  2. Don’t be too eager to please someone.
  3. Don’t make concessions too early in the interaction.
  4. Don’t go in without any information on the person you are negotiating with.
  5. Don’t accept first offers without questions.
  6. Don’t take ultimatum at face value.
  7. Never ever bring emotions into negotiation.

Of course, negotiations happen all the time (not just in business). As a matter of fact, negotiation can be a lifestyle; it even happens in your marriage with a Ukrainian wife. Now you need to clarify what you want: 1) What’s your desired outcome? 2) What’s your bottom line? 3) What’s your best other option? 4) What’s your strengths and weaknesses? 5) What’s their strengths and weaknesses? (set the expectations correctly and know where you are) – these are things that you need to know before starting any negotiation. More importantly, the power to walk away is the biggest power in negotiation.

When you are negotiating with your Ukrainian wife about a lifestyle choice, you’d better show your interest at the beginning of the negotiation. Always ask what she is asking for first. Make that concession difficult to give away – she needs to feel that she must earn the concession. Ask yourself, “What’s her power? What’s her needs? What’s her motivation?”

People respect people who watch their wallets. When you take your Ukrainian wife to the shopping mall, you can even negotiate in mainstream stores. I remember once I even asked for a discount at Zara and I got it. You don’t need to be liked in this situation.

“Lead with your state; be the pioneer. Focus on liking your Ukrainian lady – she is an individual who needs your approval.”

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