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Message to Success: How to talk to women on an international dating website

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If you meet an Eastern European lady on an international dating website, you need to know how to use text messages to attract her. I’ve summarized some rules for you to consider.

Use more statements and less questions.

To be more precise, don’t worry that if you don’t ask a question every message then she will not write back to you soon. As a matter of fact, messages with just statements are actually more powerful if done correctly. Sending a message to a woman out of the blue doesn’t necessarily have to look needy. By just sending a simple line, you may invite interest and leave her wanting for more. For example, you can send this message to a lady from Eastern Europe, “Wow. You are just like Elle Woods from Legally Blonde.” Actually, it doesn’t matter what it is. You can say, “I just realized that you remind me of Alexia from Wish Upon A Star.” She will want to know why. Your answer can be as silly as “Because you both have the same hair” or “You smile like her”. Of course, you need to make sure that it matches a part of this Eastern European woman’s personality.

Use messages to move things forward.

Remember to use messages to build up romantic tension. Have the lady look forward to sending messages to you. Women like men who offer value such as good fun and a sense of humor in text messages.

By the way, don’t be afraid to show a little of your personality now and then. Even if it’s only a sweet phrase here and there or snippets, just let the real you shine in your messages on an international dating website. One-off text messages to show that you are thinking about your lady needn’t come from a position of insecurity. You could send a single text message to tease her in a good way. For instance, if you noticed that she mentioned her favorite singer is Celine Dion, you can send her this message: “I found Celine Dion in your dating profile. I knew this could never work between us in this regard……x” (The key is the kiss at the end of this message, so that she knows you are joking in a loving way.)

Scripts – How to talk to Eastern European women on an international dating site:

If you are very busy, it’s okay to send her fewer text messages, especially at the beginning of a relationship. For example, you barely have time to respond to her message, so you send this to her, “Hi, sorry I missed you earlier. I have been helping my brother move all day and I’m certainly going to need a cocktail when all this is done!”

Alternatively, you can send this to her, “Hello, sorry I missed you earlier. I have been busy helping my brother move houses all day today. Please save me if you can!”

As I see it, as long as you get back to a lady in 24 hours, she will know you are interested in her. But if you wait for too long, she may lose interest because you probably have competitors on the same international dating website – if you find a woman attractive, chances are other men also find her attractive. Thus, you should be more proactive and shouldn’t play hard to get.

Another good example is: “I had a great time in the cinema tonight. Thank you for recommending this movie! It’s seriously perfect!”

If she likes you, she will probably send you a message within 2 days.

If she doesn’t send you a message for some reason, you can send her another message along the lines of, “I just found that beautiful song we were talking about the other day. I’m really grateful because it’s the perfect song for my sister’s birthday.”

What not to say when you are sending messages to Eastern European ladies:

First and foremost, if you are joking in a bad way, you’d better stop joking. Joking shouldn’t be overdone. When it’s overdone, your perceived value will become lower. Here is an example:

HER: “The video chat with you was amazing. I hope to do it again sometime soon.”

HIM: “Oh, indeed. It was wonderful. Remember when I joked about your eyebrows?”

HER: “Ha! Yes. That was fun. You have a good sense of humor.”

HIM: “Is this your way of changing the topic as you don’t want to talk about your eyebrows?”

This joke is childish and totally ignored the lady’s compliment. This guy didn’t flirt with her effectively; instead, he kept the chat at the same jokey level which isn’t meaningful at all.

In my view, it’s fine to begin with a joke; however, you shouldn’t get stuck in this jokey mood for too long. An effective conversation needs to have a rhythm.

Let’s have a look at another example (you may identify what went wrong here):

HER: “I look forward to having another video chat with you next week.”

HIM: “Yep, but only because I was telling you jokes during the video chat, right?”

HER: “Perhaps yes, but also a bit because I’d like to see you again.”

HIM: “Don’t be cheesy. That only reminds me of those jokes. LOL”

Note that by batting away the Eastern European lady’s attempt to open up to you, you are slowing down her attraction. You are putting yourself in the friend zone – who wants to be in the friend zone on an international dating site? Nobody.

Every Ukrainian woman likes a guy with a good sense of humor. Actually, it’s many ladies’ top criteria for a great guy. However, having a good sense of humor doesn’t mean turning every detail into a gag. I mean you can make a funny joke every few messages; nevertheless, it’s better to balance it out with affection, love and warmth.

Another bad example is, “OMG. I just ate dis amzing cake near my plce. U hav to try it sometime. LOL πŸ˜› ^.^ X”

This text message looks like something written by a 14-year-old child on a sugar rush. Remember: a sophisticated woman doesn’t like using too many emojis and certainly doesn’t prefer a guy who can’t spell!

My suggestion is to use emojis sparingly. You can save the emoji-filled, lazy text messages for your friends; don’t use these on an international dating website where genuine ladies from Ukraine are looking for love.

A sophisticated woman who reads messages that look like something written by a teenage boy will be fearful of introducing you to her family and more respectable friends.

There is another bad example (all men must avoid this):

HER: “I just made a cake with my mother this afternoon.”

HIM: “Great. I love cakes.”

HER: “Should I make one for you when you come to visit me? Which icing do you prefer?”

HIM: “Chocolate.”

This conversation is uninspired and boring. Remember that you should add value to the conversation and shouldn’t be the blank wall.

“Messages should be about building an emotional connection and showing snippets of your character.”

  • mr. smile :)

    Well, I think it’s time for me to rethink my communication style. πŸ˜€πŸ˜†πŸ˜Ž

    Reply
  • Aijazz

    Ok, when does your Bachelors Degree in Ukrainian Dating start?? I think I am seriously under-educated here..!!

    Reply

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