Relationship issues: how to seek forgiveness

A relationship is what we need in our life. Sometimes we can accidentally offend our loved ones. It happens without any intent, but reconciliation does not come. And it seems that a common language and forgiveness will never be found. The reconciliation process can be quite simple if you know its subtleties and learn how to seek forgiveness.

Does a relationship always have perfect sides?

Relationship No matter how strong the offence inflicted on a loved one, you can always seek forgiveness. But, before you receive forgiveness, it is necessary to analyze all your actions which led to the appearance of resentment and to prevent a repeat of the situation.

However, after analyzing what happened to cause the conflict and considering both sides, sometimes a person doesn’t believe they are guilty and does not want to apologize. In that case, there is no sense to seek reconciliation.
If you firmly believe yourself to be the culprit of the offence, and if the apology is unavoidable, then the right approach is necessary. Scientists have evidence that the offence can be forgiven after five tries.

Having fallen in love with someone, we become vulnerable before this person, trusting and fully revealing before our loved one. And if this person brings us an unconscious or willful offence, we perceive this as a betrayal and a loss of our security. To correct the situation and restore confidence, a period of time is required. And with a strong resentment, the offended person may want to make sure of the honesty of your words.
According to psychologists, in complicated situations, reconciliation must be gradual. During the first meeting or conversation after all the events, it is necessary to offer sincere apologies and admit your guilt. After all, if the conflict situation was very recent then any arguments about the quarrel can cause anger and lead to an even greater scandal.

On the second date, you need to apologize again. You can tell about your experience and that you have understood that your words and actions were wrong.
At the third conversation, you need to be more reserved, let the other person speak. For the fourth time, you can tell about the motive of your action, which pushed you to it. The fifth conversation must begin with a sincere regret and once again admit your mistakes.

When the offence is inflicted on a loved one who is very important for you, then be patient as during all of 5 conversations and repentance. You will listen to statements, accusations and reminders about the events. Keep yourself confident and steadfast, because your apologies are sincere. Realizing your mistakes, you will never allow them to recur.

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Olga P

Olga loves travelling and learning about different cultures. She enjoys taking photos, trying new foods, and spending time outdoors. A skilled writer, Olga is a language enthusiast as well. She enjoys meeting new people from around the world and trying out new recipes in her kitchen.