One of the most commonly asked questions by women who are currently dating is how they can get a man to finally commit and take the relationship seriously. This is especially true when they have been going out for a while and they want to finally see a direction to where the relationship is heading to.
If you find yourself in this same situation, you should know that you are not the only one and what you feel is entirely normal. It’s because nobody wants to just keep on going around the limbo of dating without knowing where it’s going. It is a complete waste of time and investment of emotions.
If you are really into someone now and you want him to take you seriously, here are some important things worth taking note of.
1. Become less interested
It might sound ironic, but this is actually one of the most effective ways for you to make your guy commit. You must know by now that guys are turned off by girls who seem desperate to be in a serious relationship. Whether you are in a rush finally be officially labeled as boyfriend/girlfriend, you should not make your intentions too obvious because guys can smell it from afar. And once they start to feel that you are itching for a commitment, they might back off instead.
So what you need to do is to give them the challenge they are looking for. Do not be clingy and needy, and avoid being available all the time for him. Don’t make it easy and convenient for him by being around every time he needs you to be there. Show him you have got other things so that he will strive to get your attention.
2. Keep things positive and fun
No one wants to be in a toxic and stressful relationship, and so, this is what you are supposed to make your guy feel. He needs to feel that if he finally commits to you, you won’t give him a hard time and a lot of stress with arguments and a lot of drama. As early as now, it will better if you just show him how light and positive you are. The things he notices about you today will help him decide whether you are for keeps or not.
3. Get along with his friends and family
If your guy sees that you can get along with his friends and family just fine, the more he will see that you are a girlfriend material. There are people who make decisions based on the approval of the people who matter to them. So you need to put in some efforts to be closer to the people he loves and cares about. Of course, make sure that your efforts are not fake but are done with all your heart because you want to be a part of his life soon.
4. Make him put in more effort while you are dating
You know what people say, the greater the investment, the greater the chances of getting attached. It means that when he continually does things for you, even the smallest of things, the more he will feel attached. There is going to be a better chance for him to ask you to be his girlfriend. That is because he already has a lot of work put in for the relationship.
5. Go MIA for a short while
Whether we like it or not, people appreciate people or things less if they know that they are always accessible and easy to reach. That is the same for you. If you are always available for him, he will not value your presence and he won’t realize how much he needs you in your absence. And that is why you need to make him feel your absence and go MIA even just for a short while. This will be the perfect chance for him to miss you. And if you matter to him, he won’t like the feeling of not having you around. He might even worry if your attention is already with another guy. This will then lead to the realization that he actually wants to be more than friends with you, and soon enough, he will be popping the question if you would agree to be his girlfriend.
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Although I can appreciate that your post is coming from a good place,..it encourages manipulation.
A truly intelligent man knows all these “tricks” that women play. If the connection is right,..then manipulation shouldn’t even cross your mind. If a woman has to manipulate a man in order to get him to commit then the relationship is doomed to fail in the first place.
Women reading this,..I encourage you to not intentionally mislead or manipulate your man…Us real men are seeking a genuine connection. Not a fabricated facade designed to “capture and keep” us. If we are here then we are already not the “average” type of guy.
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