Please allow me to start this blog article with a true story: Craig got divorced in 2013 and spent a few years dealing with the pain and stress. He had hypervigilance and anxiety for years. Now, when he looks back on those days, he realises that he should have let himself be happier. Currently, Craig is looking for love on an online dating website because it is something that most single people do in this day and age.
What would you like to achieve in your life right now?
My neighbour David would like to have a healthy body, a growth mindset, and a happy relationship. However, he likes staying up late at night while watching TV & doesn’t have a social life. That means his preferences are entertainment and isolation. This is sad but true. But in order to achieve his goals, he has to try and change his preferences: he should make fitness, education, and love his new values.
Indeed, in order to change his life, he must have some new values. Hence, David has written down his new core values (fitness, education, and love) on Page 1 of a brand-new notebook on his desk. Based on his new preferences, he starts to make new plans so as to make his new vision happen. David goes to bed before 11 p.m. at night now and has unsubscribed from Netflix completely. More importantly, he has joined an online dating site. What’s more, he has started to go to the gym just to work on his fitness. He wants to look better, thereby boosting his confidence in the dating scene.
Likewise, if you are keen to change your life, you have to ask yourself what you want to achieve right now and then identify new priorities that you need to have. According to your core values, you can make effective plans. In addition, you may have an accountability buddy who will help you stick to your plan. This person holds you accountable. That is to say, you tell a reliable friend about your plan so that your friend can support you.
Having said that, not everyone needs an accountability buddy. Personally, I never had an accountability buddy because I didn’t need one. My self-discipline is pretty good, and I strongly believe that the secret to success is the word ‘secret’. I don’t tell anyone anything about my goals and plans because if I tell others about what I want to do, they might disagree with me because they don’t necessarily like the change.
Happiness comes from adjusting your blueprint.
Some single men think they should find a partner in their existing social circle. Yet these days, finding love through family and friends isn’t efficient. In contrast, online dating is the primary way for most single people to meet each other and it’s much more efficient. Thus, if your blueprint is to find true love via your social circle but you haven’t found The One yet, perhaps it’s time to consider adjusting your blueprint. You can join an online dating website where single women are looking for men just like you. I think you might eventually find that your Plan B deserved to be front and centre all along anyway. When you have a flexible mindset, dating will be more rewarding!
Speaking of looking for love after a breakup or a divorce, when you start dating again, maybe you can have two categories of clothes in your wardrobe: formal clothes and loungewear. That means you have something nice to wear when you go out for dates. Meanwhile, you also have something comfortable (but not too casual) to wear when you cook dinner at home with your new partner. These two categories will help you build a refreshing lifestyle by giving you a good sense of fashion.
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Olga loves travelling and learning about different cultures. She enjoys taking photos, trying new foods, and spending time outdoors. A skilled writer, Olga is a language enthusiast as well. She enjoys meeting new people from around the world and trying out new recipes in her kitchen.
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