Did you two lose your spark?

Would like to get your spark back as soon as possible? There is a common misunderstanding that in romantic relationships, we are like in the imaginary world, but after that’s over, we return to the real world.

Here are five tips why the chemistry has started to fade away, and how you can get your spark back.

A relationship can be extremely passionate at the beginning, but how long will that spark last?

1. YOU ARE NOT HONEST

True closeness is letting someone pervade you, emotionally. And you pervade your partner right back with a spark.
The bitter truth is better than the sweet lie. Ever notice how after a deep, raw, honest conversation with your partner, you can’t keep off from each other? Let your partner hear you. Tell the truth, even if it scares you.

 2.  YOU DO NOT PRIORITIZE PROXIMITY

Sexual energy is an immense power source that you can use to increase your physical and emotional vitality, mental clarity and spiritual well-being. It is also the glue in intimate relationships.

When you grow sexually distant, you’ll find that your connection just doesn’t have the same warmth, spark or aliveness. You may be good buddies, but the passion isn’t there. You’ll likely find yourselves arguing more.

Your bedroom is your sanctuary to reconnect and renovate. Commit to working on your intimate life the way you do any other area of your growth, such as nutrition, health or fitness.

3. YOU DON’T HAVE ENOUGH TIME APART.

Even though you’re a couple, you still need time and space to go after those things which feed you as an individual. If you aren’t being true to yourself, you are less attractive to your partner.

It can be easy to sacrifice your deeper needs for the sake of your relationship, but your soul food and the things that make your heart sing bring you deep fulfilment. When you are revitalized, you bring that juiciness back into your relationship.

It’s the careful balance of closeness and distance that creates erotic tension. Play with it.

4. YOU REALIZED THAT AFTER TWO YEARS, IT’S A DOWNHILL.

That misconception claiming there’s a biochemical drop-off after two years (or whatever) in relationships only reflects one thing: This is the time when people begin to put their attention elsewhere.

In the first two years, we put our new relationship at the top of our priority list. We nurture it. We make time for it.

Once that feels secured, we pay less attention. We drift. But you can maintain that passion and intensity simply by deciding to.

5. YOU HAVE STOPPED GROWING.

People often say that they can’t imagine being married to the same person for the rest of their lives, but if you and your partner are constantly growing and learning, you are different people all the time. So you aren’t married to the same person for 30 years.

However, if you’re committed to stagnation and no evolution in your life, then you’ll definitely be married to the same person.

You can recreate the thrill of the new all the time. As you both grow and unfold, learning new things about yourselves, you’re getting to know your partner on new levels too. This keeps you endlessly fascinated with the ever-evolving person in front of you.

The bottom line is that you get to design your relationship. It’s entirely possible to be with someone for decades and still have smouldering passion.

Olga P

Olga loves travelling and learning about different cultures. She enjoys taking photos, trying new foods, and spending time outdoors. A skilled writer, Olga is a language enthusiast as well. She enjoys meeting new people from around the world and trying out new recipes in her kitchen.