Ukraine dating – Perception and Understanding

I received the following email this week and it is quite typical of some of the emails that I receive from men who join the site:

I have not replied to any of the ladies cause I am still deciding if this site is genuine or not. Your idea of genuine is offering a legitimate service with serious women seeking a foriegn partner. Without scams or other dishonest intent on the part of the women or yourselves.

My idea of genuine goes beyond this. I have not even posted a picture so far yet many women have expressed interest in me? I have put information in my profile about me and where I live, but not one woman has commented on it.

It seems like all the messages are simply different versions of the same general script. Designed to promise me the world and declare how wonderful these women are. I wish to have real women talking to me like a real person as tho they are real people with quirks, fears, pasts etc.

All the pictures appear to be professionally done. Yet, you claim to encourage the women to use natural pictures of themselves in there lives. I do not believe any of these pictures are of the women in a natural setting. I think the women are all done up glamorously and have a photographer taking the photos.

There are only “educated” women or women attending school for further education. Why can I not pick women from all walks of life. Why do you only allow women that fit a certain mold to be available on your site?

I am not feeling this site has a good selection of genuine women… perhaps they are genuine. However, they are not shown as real people. They are shown as poster girls….

I could go on. I think you get the idea though.

This raises an interesting point and highlights how we allow men to choose who they wish to correspond with in a fair way, rather than allowing the woman to use clever means to get noticed above all other ladies listed on the site. We have chosen to do this and unfortunately for many men, they see this as false and misleading.

Please let me explain…….

Serious women will monitor the site for new men register that fall within their ideal criteria – age, occupation, interests and the country they live in. Even without the man posting a photo, the lady will try to attract his attention to initiate communication. Therefore, if you post your profile without a photo, the ladies will still send you an introductory letter.

We discovered early on when we first set up the site that some women will use shock tactics to get noticed and hopefully men will find it enticing and write back. This included suggestive photos and sexually explicit letters. About 5% of men find this exciting and 95% say we are a scam and leave the site. This means that a small proportion of ladies are deterring a large proportion of men from using the site.

To counter this we have insisted that every lady must submit professional photos and an introductory letter about themselves that must be used when first contacting a man. We have effectively said to each lady that their photos and their introductory letter are a CV of themselves – the better it is, the more likely they are to attract a genuine man. This is similar to applying for new employment – the best CV gets the interviews.

Once a man initiates communication with a lady by sending her a message, a nudge or a reply to her introductory letter, she is free to write in her free hand and submit her own choice of photos.

Any genuine Ukraine lady will always have professional photos. One of the most positive aspects of Ukraine ladies is the very high emphasis they place on looking immaculate at all times. This is why they appear so beautiful to foreign men – it is normally something that the ladies from their own country do not do well. Ukraine ladies place tremendous pride in their appearance at all times.

Typically, ladies who have qualifications and career aspirations take the trouble to look for a foreign man – this is natural. They want to reach their life potential for standard of living, life quality and career potential. That is why they are prepared to relocate to a new country. Generally speaking, international dating attracts ladies with education and career aspirations – it is not that we pick and choose the ladies to list on our site. All ladies are most welcome to register.

We have set the site up so that any men who register can select from the galleries or the introductory letters that they receive rather than being swayed by shock tactics which may lead them to leave the site in disgust. Sometimes this is seen as manufactured selection but we want every lady to have an equal opportunity to find love and for the man to choose based on his criteria. Often men misread why we have chosen to do this and I receive emails like the one above. It is a shame that they cant see that we are really only trying to create an even and fair playing field for all.

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Nadezhda K

Nadezhda is a romantic who enjoys writing poetry and painting. She loves travelling and experiencing different cultures. In her free time, she volunteers at local shelters, practices yoga, and loves quiet moments with a good book and a cup of herbal tea.