“I’ve met many Ukrainian women in my life, but I still haven’t found ‘The One’ yet,” says a guy in his late 30s, “Actually, last month I met a great woman who obviously had a good connection with me, but she isn’t emotionally available, so could you please tell me how to get over her?”
The most important element of a relationship might surprise you.
I fully understand that connection is very important because it’s such a beautiful thing to have. However, realistically, a connection is the prerequisite of a romantic relationship; it’s not the most fundamental element.
What’s the most fundamental element in a romantic relationship?
Before answering this question, I’d like to share an analogy with you: Connection, chemistry, etc. are the raw materials on a piece of land. These are totally necessary. Yet in order to build a real building on this piece of land, you need to put all these raw materials together and create a solid building. Therefore, what you need to find is a builder who is willing to build this building with you as a team.
That is to say, you have to find someone who wants to be your team member, someone who is happy to invest in this relationship by building a strong building with you.
Hence, please don’t invest in someone based on how much you like her; invest in someone based on how much she invests in you.
For instance, if a Ukrainian woman responds to your text messages, participates your video/audio chat and listens to you carefully, she is clearly investing in you. What’s more, if she is making plans to be with you in the future, she is a builder that you must cherish because you can have connection with many people, but builders are not that common.
As a result, if she is emotionally unavailable, she isn’t a builder. End of story.
Do not invest in the Ukrainian women.
Every relationship has four key stages: Admiration à Connection à Commitment à Compatibility.
At Stage 1 (Admiration), this is all about you admiring someone: her elegance, her manners, her intelligence, and so on. You like her because of the chemistry and attraction. Nevertheless, she isn’t really involved at this stage as this is just how you feel.
Stage 2 (Connection) isn’t rare, for you can have connection with other people, too.
I would argue that Stage 3 (Commitment) is much more paramount because this is where you see whether she is a builder or not. When a Ukrainian woman invests in this relationship, you know she is a builder.
Interestingly, Stage 4 (Compatibility) is more important than most people think, but it’s not on most people’s radar. Truthfully, problems that happen at Stage 4 are usually the reason why people get divorced. Do you have compatible values? Do you respect the way she spends most of her free time? What about your habits and her habits in daily life?
When you are pretty sure that you and this Ukrainian lady are compatible in life, you can keep investing in this builder who is ready to continue building a future with you.
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Olga loves travelling and learning about different cultures. She enjoys taking photos, trying new foods, and spending time outdoors. A skilled writer, Olga is a language enthusiast as well. She enjoys meeting new people from around the world and trying out new recipes in her kitchen.
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