TO BUY OR NOT TO BUY?

To be buy or not to be buy – that is the question! It may seem funny, but this way sounds the most common issue a man faces when dating a Ukrainian lady. Communicating through the Internet men often suggest financial support to the ladies they like. It is no secret that every woman wants to be treated like a princess and Ukrainian ladies are not an exception. Here comes the question: how much is it needed to make her feel this way? Guess what? Actually nothing!

Your care is what it all about

When you date a Ukrainian lady, all what matters is how you behave and how you treat her. Any small gesture of your care, like helping her with her everyday shopping (I mean exactly this type instead of going to boutique), carrying her shopping bags home, helping her to cook tasty dinner and meeting her after a long working day shows her your affection. This is all true about the real dating. But what if you can’t be close to your lady for some reason? How can you show your love and care?

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All the gifts you may buy to your lady may be just a feeble replacement of your real presence beside her. Well, this is also better than nothing. You may show your affection by hundreds of different ways. You may buy your lady a 101 roses, a golden necklace, a voucher for a spa salon, a villa, a yacht, an island… Though, do you actually remember the list of things that a Ukrainian lady really appreciates in her relationship with a man? 🙂

 Money can’t buy everything

Most of Ukrainian ladies value support (emotional and financial support as well). Ukrainian ladies, especially single mothers, may seem strong and independent. You may get an idea of how bravely they meet all the life difficulties reading this post https://blog.ukrainebridesagency.com/day-in-a-life-of-a-single-ukrainian-women However, they will be immensely thankful to a man who can make them feel tender, weak and fragile. At these circumstances a financial support would be of a great use. It could unload the lady from working-to-survive to working-for-pleasure. Note that I didn’t say that you have to buy her free time completely.

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Any adult person has his/her set way of life. Therefore, intruding too much in this scheme may do you a disservice. The lady may be either scared or angry at you. She may become spoiled as well. Nobody can guess how every particular person reacts on easy money. If you don’t want to make your lady feel like she was bought, don’t provide her money before you meet the lady personally. Considering everything I told you, I do not recommend you to buy expensive clothes, devices, jewelry when you are actually not a couple yet.

Excessive financial support and its consequences

The desire to provide for your lady is a noble and respectful one. Though, I think it is better not to send big sums to the lady as this may cause negative consequences. You will likely get a natural wish to know if the lady got your money transfer and if she spent it. The lady in her turn will have no desire to report you about everything as she is an adult and independent person. Your questions may make Ukrainian woman think that you have doubts in her ability to earn enough on her own. Taking that into account you may get some doubts about the real purpose the lady used your financial help for. All this may cause a loss of trust between you.

Don’t pamper her child too much

Building a connection with your lady’s child is a great influencer on development of your relationship. Be careful: if you decide to pamper the lady’s kid you may also get into a trouble. Accepting expensive gadgets like a smartphone, a laptop, etc. from an unfamiliar man is not something a good mother teaches her child. There can also happen that the lady starts to think that she owes you now when she got some money from you. The loss of independence may scare the lady and you will lose a connection with her.

Vital advice for your relationship

One more final recommendation I need to give you concerning the topic is this: do not ever ask to give your presents back. It is unacceptable even in case if your relations completely broke no matter what the reason was. This is something that a gentleman would never do. Any gift should be a gesture of a good will and not a bargain. I will repeat myself that actually your support and care matters. This is a strong base of a healthy relationship with a Ukrainian lady.

I hope that everything I wrote in the post will wipe out some doubts you may have now and will help you to build a healthy and strong relationship with your Ukrainian lady.

I would be happy to get your feedback and your ideas about the topic 🙂

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  • Melvin

    But Anna, doesn’t this go against what is a widely accepted thought – that you don’t give money to any lady until you have actually met with her in person and are in love with her? I would think that giving money to a lady that a gentleman has yet to meet is risky.

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    • Anna

      Dear Melvin!
      Thank you for your commentary. I fully and completely agree with your opinion. That is why I stated that “If you don’t want to make your lady feel like she was bought, don’t provide her money before you meet the lady personally” and that “I do not recommend you to buy expensive clothes, devices, jewelry when you are actually not a couple yet” in the fifth paragraph. But, unfortunately, some many men think that if they send big sums of money or buy expensive gifts – that will help them to win the heart of the desired lady. Of course, all the ladies like presents, but not necessarily expensive ones. If a lady is serious about you, any sign of your affection will be pleasant for her 🙂
      I wish you luck in your search for a life partner!

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