Dating a Ukrainian lady and wondering how to woo her with your date ideas?
Many of our preconceptions regarding how first dates are supposed to be are instilled in us from a young age. Yet sadly, so much of this advice is incorrect and causes the same boring first dates every single time. The typical boring first date is the dinner date, i.e. you meet her at a restaurant for a three-course meal, talk for two hours, and then decide how to end the date awkwardly.
No, I’m not saying dinner dates are all bad. However, as a first date, it is a non-starter due to the following reasons:
Reason #1: There is no external focus.
When you sit down for a dinner date in a restaurant, you instantly create a very intense dynamic where you and the Ukrainian lady are both sat face-to-face and have to make conversation out of thin air – you don’t even know each other yet. In other words, all your focus is on each other. Lack of an external focus makes the interaction awkward.
Reason #2: There isn’t any shared experience.
Most people who have ever had relationships all had the dinner date as their first date. It makes me yawn. In my opinion, a first date should be something more memorable. You’d better share something with each other so that you will remember the first date clearly. It should be something that gives you and the Ukrainian lady an opportunity to connect. Therefore, the first date needs to be an environment where you can enjoy yourselves while getting to know each other.
I understand that most people want to play it safe on the first date (better safe than sorry), so they don’t want to take a risk by doing something out of their comfort zone. But unfortunately, playing it safe doesn’t lead to excitement and attraction.
Reason #3: You can’t control the length of the first date.
From my point of view, a good date should be able to last somewhere between 20 minutes to 5 hours. Yet with a dinner date, you are actually locked into at least 1 hour of conversation. Worse still, when you both know this, it can add pressure on you both, for you feel the time dragging on.
- What you should do on a first date with a Ukrainian lady:
I interviewed many western men and asked them where they usually go on a first date. This is what they told me: They oftentimes go to three venues for the first date – 1) restaurants; 2) cinemas; 3) bars and pubs.
Although these aren’t terrible venues, they are not ideal. The worst of them is the cinema because that’s not even a real date – both of you are sitting while seeing a movie without talking to each other. You can do that with anyone!
There is no chance for connecting and flirting, so you miss out on the entire point of the first date. You can’t get to know each other by sitting in a cinema!
Ideally, the first date should make it easy to chat and shows the Ukrainian lady that you are much more creative than simply having a few drinks in a pub or having a three-course meal in a restaurant.
Now I’d like to show you several ideas regarding great venues for first dates:
Venue #1: Ice cream parlors
When you send a text message to a lady from Ukraine, “I am yearning for some ice cream now. You have to try this ice cream parlor on ABC Street because they have the best toppings and a wide variety of flavors”, this idea looks very intriguing. This is ten times more interesting than asking her out for a coffee.
By the way, when you go to an ice cream parlor with a woman from Ukraine, it’s much easier to talk about funny things such as ice cream flavors.
Venue #2: Parks
If it’s summertime, you can bring food to a park with an Eastern European lady for a picnic. Ask her to bring some food as well so that she will need to invest in the date. The more she invests in the date, the closer she will feel to you.
Apart from that, any type of pre-planned walk in a garden is a good first date because when you are close to the nature, you become more emotional. Remember: dating is an emotional experience rather than a logical experience. You must build a strong emotional connection with your Eastern European girlfriend.
Venue #3: High tea, morning tea or afternoon tea venues
A venue that provides some tea and snacks is usually more exciting than a pub that offers drinks. What’s more, you can send a sophisticated message to the lady from Eastern Europe: “I’m going to take morning tea with cakes on Tuesday if you’d be so gracious as to join me at No. 123 on XYZ Street.”
Venue #4: Museums and galleries
Many museums and art galleries could take a long time to see everything. Therefore, when you invite an Eastern European woman there, you probably need to have a particular exhibition in mind that you’d like to see, or have a basic idea of the route you can take mapped out in your head beforehand.
This activity makes you and the Ukrainian lady focus on what you are looking at and you are able to talk to each other when you feel like chatting a bit more, or simply talk about the art. Also, the majority of museums and galleries have coffeehouses; thus, you can move on to getting some coffee later.
Venue #5: Theme parks
Personally, this is my favorite option for a first date. Research in the United States and Canada reveals that dates which generate excitement and adventure bring two people closer to each other. That is to say, when you and your Ukrainian girlfriend experience something very different, thrilling or unusual together, you will build a closer rapport quickly.
Having said that, it doesn’t mean you have to take her to a roller-coaster. But you might consider taking her to an interesting theme park.
Venue #6: Comedy shows
I love comedy shows because they are shorter than movies. I am not a movie fan because movies are too long in my opinion. I think comedy is very good because it’s something that gets you and your lady laughing, so a comedy show can loosen you up and make it much easier to talk during intervals. Moreover, you can then turn this date into drinks or a supper afterwards, and now you will have more to talk about.
Venue #7: The zoo
This is similar to the effect of a comedy show ? You can easily have fun together and then get a coffee afterwards. Now you have more to talk about, e.g. which animal is your favorite, whether you’d like to have a pet or not, etc.
“The first date can be an opportunity to do something that takes your fancy that you haven’t in a long time.”
Olga loves travelling and learning about different cultures. She enjoys taking photos, trying new foods, and spending time outdoors. A skilled writer, Olga is a language enthusiast as well. She enjoys meeting new people from around the world and trying out new recipes in her kitchen.
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