How can you deal with someone you cannot trust?
If there is no axle in the cart, how can you ride it?
Confucius
Indeed, trust is the main component of harmonious relationships, but where to get this very component? How to learn to trust each other?
DO NOT CLING TO THE PAST RELATIONSHIPS
The most frequent reason for the lack of trust in relationships is the past love experience of partners, which led to excessive cynicism. Once, in past relationships, one partner betrayed another, played false or hurt, as a result of these tests a person ceases to trust other people. Do not let your past cast a shadow on the present. At the beginning of a relationship, some skepticism is considered a norm, but over time, confidence must develop so that the relationship is truly strong. So get rid of a load of your past experience and enjoy the present.
SHOW YOUR UNCERTAINTY
Another most common reason for the lack of trust in its own uncertainty, the expectation of danger. You do not trust people because you do not feel safe and afraid to get hurt. The best solution is to voice all your fears and insecurities to your partner. If both partners are counting on a serious relationship, they, of course, will struggle with this situation. Your partner will help you gain confidence and a sense of security.
DO NOT BE PROPRIETARY
The proprietor can never think logically and his jealousy is able to destroy healthy relationships. If you think that your proprietary attitude will not allow your partner to change you, you are mistaken, this is just your desire. Your demanding attitude towards a partner will eventually alienate your partner. Every person wants to be sure that apart from a love relationship, there is another life, and that he is not someone’s slave. To build true trust in a relationship, you will have to overcome your proprietary attitude.
SHARE YOUR FEELINGS
One of the best ways to build trust is to share your feelings with others. Hiding feelings can awaken suspicion in others. It is very important to share your true feelings in order to build an unbreakable union. The more you share, the closer you will become, and affinity will cultivate trust. Relationships survive on the basis of trust with a partner. Do not destroy your relationship by being too secretive.
FIGHT WITH YOUR FEARS AND NEGATIVITY
Mistrust of others is the result of hidden fears and negative thinking. Think positive and always remember that only you can build a really good relationship. Confidence issues most often arise in front of people who cannot bring themselves to think positively. You have to subdue your fears if you want to trust your partner completely. However, it is equally important to remember that blind faith can lead to pain.
If you feel that you are not so close to your partner, as you would like, then this is primarily an excuse to understand yourself. But do not go to the extreme and assume all the responsibility, because the relationship is interaction, and there are always too involved in them.
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