5 Things You Need to Discuss Before Getting Engaged

Many couples who get engaged would usually put in all their efforts to planning their wedding. It is so easy to get caught up in the idea of a getting married and living happily ever after. However, what these couples forget is that there is so much more to marriage than the wedding itself – it is about the lifetime you will be spending with your partner. So as you plan your wedding, you should also make plans and talk about your marriage. While your engagement may be one of the most exciting phases of your life, do not forget the more pressing matters you need to pay attention to if you want a happy and lasting marriage.

So here are some of the most important things you need to discuss with your partner before you get engaged.

1. Finances

Handling finances in any stage of the relationship is never easy, let alone when you are already married. So before you even finally decide to tie the knot, you should know how you will be handling financial matters as a couple. You need to come to an agreement when it comes to money. Otherwise, it will become a reason for your major fights in the long run. Go over the details and find out how both of you think about saving, spending and deciding about your priorities. You can also discuss who will be in charge of certain expenses, especially when you already start building a family.

At the end of the day, it’s all about setting clear expectations especially when it comes to money matters. This will help you avoid unnecessary fights in the future.

2. Religion

For most people, their faith or religion is a huge part of their lives, and you are lucky if you are in the same religion as your future wife or husband. But if you have different views and beliefs about religion, it will be better if you start to talk about it now than later. You need to talk about raising your children in a certain religion, how your practices will affect your relationship and your future family, and so on.

3. Parenting

More often than not, kids follow shortly after marriage and that is the reason why you need to agree on how you will raise your children as parents. You need to talk about the discipline and rules you will impose, the type of parents you want to be, your plans for your children’s future, etc. These things are essential because your kids need to see that you are working as a team as their parents. They can’t see you argue and fight because you can’t even unite in your parenting style.

4. Your everyday living

Discussing your everyday living my need a longer time because this is now where you will really have to set your expectations about each other’s habits and behaviors when at home. Once you get married, you will have all the time in the world to observe how your partner live day to day. This is now the time when you will learn a lot more about them and discover the things that you like and dislike. You will discover many things that you may also hate. So as early as possible, ask each other some questions so that you will know what to expect when you are already married. For example, ask each other how you respond to problems; how you act when you are not in the mood; what your sleeping schedules are like; your weird habits at home, and many others.

5. Handling disagreements and fights

Many things will change as soon as you get married. How you fight when you are girlfriends and boyfriends may not have to be the same after you tied the knot, especially when you start having kids. You need to agree on how you will handle conflicts because no matter how hard you try, disagreements and arguments will really happen. You are two unique individuals so you will have varying opinions on things in one way or another. You should learn how to engage in a non-violent communication.

Olga P

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