Online dating is about choosing the right candidate amongst multiple candidates due to the nature of dating websites where there are definitely many options. This process isn’t the easiest task in the world, so let me help you master the art of internet dating.
There’s no rejection, only feedback.
Fear of rejection may keep many people in their comfort zone all the time because taking a risk isn’t always very pleasant. However, I would argue that if you have never been rejected before, it probably means you are merely reaching for the low-hanging fruit instead of realizing your potential.
Meanwhile, you also need to know how to give someone a rejection properly. I’ve documented some interesting ways to give somebody a rejection (these examples aren’t perfect, but they are real stories):
- How do men give women rejection?
Actually, it’s extremely difficult for men to give women rejection, so I’ve interviewed several women who told me how men gave them rejection:
“One hour before the date, he sent me a text message: ‘I injured my foot on the stairs just now, so I can’t go out for the date’,” says Maria, “He simply didn’t want to see me again and didn’t know what to say to me. That text message also means he couldn’t go out for at least a few days because of the injury.”
“He told me that he was too busy to start a relationship,” says Lisa, “I don’t think he was as busy as Bill Clinton who had time for dates when he was the president of the United States. If a guy loves me and wants to be with me, he would find time to see me no matter how busy he is.”
“One guy told me that he wanted to find a woman who is taller than 170cm. Because my height is 161cm, I can’t meet his standard. Another guy told me that his mom wanted him to find a woman from his hometown; otherwise, his mom cannot get along with his wife due to cultural difference,” says Elaine, “They were using things that I don’t have objectively.”
“A guy told me that he isn’t good enough for me because I deserve someone better that can give me happiness,” says Rhonda, “Is that a typical excuse?”
2. How do women give men rejection?
If you are a woman reading this blog, you are definitely here for a treat. I know giving men rejection isn’t fun, but you still need to know how to do it when it’s necessary. Of course, you don’t want to hurt anyone!
a) If you are under 30 years old, you can say your parents don’t want you to marry this guy.
b) If you are above 30 years old, you aren’t young enough to use the above-mentioned technique. Therefore, you might say, “We aren’t the right candidates for each other. You are a great guy. I hope you will find the right lady for you.”
Frankly, it’s a bit easier for women to give men rejection because in reality, that’s more common.
If you receive a rejection, don’t worry – that’s just feedback!
The reality of dating in big cities:
Nowadays dating is hard in big cities. Statistics show that in most big cities, a large number of high-value women can’t find partners. For instance, in Shanghai, amongst all single people, 70% of them are women, whereas only 30% of them are men. Big cities such as New York and Sydney have similar statistics.
I remember a well-known dating coach says single ladies in New York should move to small towns so that they can find love faster. I know this strategy sounds a little bit controversial, but it makes complete sense.
Due to the efficiency of online dating, internet dating has become the primary way for single people to find love, especially if they are in big cities.
Please note that you would be well-advised to get married for the right reasons, e.g., you genuinely want to share your wonderful life with someone that you admire and love deeply. If you get married for the wrong reasons, chances are you might get divorced quickly. Wrong reasons include wanting to fit in (because other people get married), convenience, etc.
Hopefully you find this article informative!
“Online dating is the most efficient way to find someone suitable.”
Olga loves travelling and learning about different cultures. She enjoys taking photos, trying new foods, and spending time outdoors. A skilled writer, Olga is a language enthusiast as well. She enjoys meeting new people from around the world and trying out new recipes in her kitchen.
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