Every relationship ends via death or divorce/separation. If you are thinking about leaving a wrong relationship, that’s understandable and very normal because love has a life, too, and it can die. People love talking about how to find true love and how to maintain a romantic relationship, but most people don’t want to talk about how to end a wrong relationship. According to an online dating expert, in truth, the ending of a romantic relationship is also a meaningful topic that we shouldn’t ignore because it’s sometimes necessary and unavoidable.
- If a romantic relationship ends, it doesn’t necessarily mean this relationship has already failed.
Realistically, chances are each relationship has added some sort of value to your life: A romantic relationship can teach you many things, help you to grow, and give you a brand-new direction in your life, even though the relationship has ended now. Thus, if a relationship is going to end, please don’t drown yourself in the ocean of sadness; actually, you’d better focus on what you’ve learned from the relationship.
When you prioritize learning, you are constantly building a growth mindset in this challenging scenario. Hence, you are less likely to feel like a victim who wants to take revenge. That’s why seeing the silver lining is so key.
- How to end a wrong relationship in the right way:
First and most importantly, you must look after yourself well because when you put yourself first, you won’t let resentment grow uncontrollably.
Second, you have to be fair to your girlfriend. You are breaking up with your girlfriend. This is a major decision. If you are 100% sure that this relationship is wrong & you must end it, you’d better sit down with your girlfriend and have a candid conversation. An honest conversation is usually a very difficult conversation in this situation, but this conversation has to happen – both you and your girlfriend deserve candor, clarity, and care.
- How to start online dating with a refreshing mindset:
Please allow me to start this section by introducing the art of giving it up.
Last month my favorite pop singer took her own life because she couldn’t accept these facts: 1) her husband has left her; 2) she tried IVF approximately 10 times, but those attempts all failed completely; 3) she wasn’t able to perform on the stage anymore due to health problems. It is said that she suffered from depression for a few years. Obviously, she was a perfectionist & she didn’t master the art of giving it up.
My best friend Celena is an extremely intelligent young woman in her late 30s (according to our definition, anyone who is under 40 is young). Celena got divorced in her early 30s and now she has given up on marriage and kids entirely. What’s more, Celena was made redundant during the pandemic because of the economy, and that industry wasn’t hiring for several years. Then she has become a retail worker and a freelancer. In other words, she has given up her professional career. Frankly, Celena is the happiest person I’ve ever met because she has mastered the art of giving it up. Please don’t get me wrong. I am definitely not saying that you shouldn’t pursue your dreams. I’m just saying that sometimes giving it up is actually a very wise approach because this refreshing mindset sets you free.
Celena has the freedom that most people envy. More importantly, she knows how to leverage the freedom that she is able to enjoy: She has a full-time retail job nowadays. Because that’s her day job, she doesn’t think about that job after work. Hence, she can have more time to do her freelance business in the evening (she doesn’t watch Netflix). What’s more, she prioritizes her hobbies on weekends: reading and cooking. She is enjoying life 100%.
Basically, when it comes to looking for a new relationship, if you stop worrying about looks, status, and rejection, you can certainly relax more and online dating will also become easier for you. After mastering the art of giving it up, you begin to allow life to unfold right in front of you. Then you will be calmer, happier, and more confident.
“With a refreshing and new mindset, you are ready for online dating.”
Olga loves travelling and learning about different cultures. She enjoys taking photos, trying new foods, and spending time outdoors. A skilled writer, Olga is a language enthusiast as well. She enjoys meeting new people from around the world and trying out new recipes in her kitchen.
Good morning and thank you for writing this very important article. I have taken about 9months out to recover from my relationship failure (even if that is the right word!!!!) and as you rightly say we are always learning. Also relationships do have a time span… Maybe quite short or a lifetime. Like the flowers in my garden now in UK they are going to sleep… But new life and new love will reappear next Spring and this is where I am now. Again thanks so much for your thoughts. Victor Parkin
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