“My wife has cheated on me, so now I feel hurt,” says Joseph, “We have been married for almost 10 years and our kids are still young. Should I leave her?”
“No matter whether you decide to stay or leave, you have to go all in,” I explain how to handle the situation to him, “If you decide to stay, please give it a good test of whether this marriage can work in the long run. But if you decide to leave, you must go all in as well. That’s my ultimate relationship advice for you.”
- The right attitude after she has made a major mistake:
As I see it, you shouldn’t spend all your time blaming a woman for her mistake. However, if you will stay together, she must pay for her mistake, meaning she must give you what you really need in order to overcome this challenge. Meanwhile, you do whatever you need so as to overcome it as well.
If you have decided to stay with your wife after she has made a big mistake like infidelity, she has to commit to building trust with you again and remain empathetic to the pain that you are currently going through. By staying in this marriage, you do for yourself what you should do to overcome this challenge, become stronger, grow out of the pain, and give it a real test of whether this marriage will actually work in the long term.
But if you have decided to leave this relationship, you also must go all in, e.g., move out, read books about dating and relationship advice, join an online dating website and go to the gym. A close friend of mine left his wife because she cheated. He has completely transformed his life after the divorce – Now he has invested in solid fashion advice, so he has a brand-new wardrobe; he has started his own business which is working pretty well; he has met someone new via a dating site. He looks different and feels different nowadays. 🌷
- If the cheating spouse isn’t trying hard enough to rebuild the trust, you have to leave.
You and your wife have a pact, but she has betrayed that pact. This is very painful, but it’s actually not uncommon these days, especially in modern Western society where a large number of women feel very entitled. This is sad but true. If your wife has cheated on you, she must try really hard in order to build trust in this marriage. In other words, if she doesn’t go all in to support you, you already have the answer: You should leave this problematic marriage and find a satisfying relationship that you deserve! Life is too short for a wrong relationship that makes you unhappy.
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“The best relationship advice is also the most empowering advice.”
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