4 Ways You’re Ruining Your Relationship Without You Realizing It

November 30, 2017 at 6.00am by in International Dating
Ruining Your Relationship

When you are in a relationship, you would want to be the best girlfriend or boyfriend as you can be. You will do anything and everything to make things work and make your relationship as perfect as possible. You go out of your way to make sure your partner constantly feels loved and to make sure you don’t fall short of their expectations. However, there is no such thing as a perfect relationship, and many times, in in our desire to make sure that it is cultivated and nurtured, we end up doing certain things that actually ruin it. Be careful of these things because they might just be the reason you could lose what you have been taking really good care of.

Here are those things or the ways by which you ruin your relationship without realizing it.

1. Doing every single thing they ask you to do

You sure want to make your partner happy in the relationship, and it is only natural for you to want to please them and make their lives easier and convenient. However, there is a danger in overdoing it. It is okay to say yes to what they ask you when you know you can still handle it but when it comes to a point when you have to make some sacrifices on your end and you know that they can do it themselves, you must also learn how to say no. Otherwise, they will get used to it and expect you to do everything for them. And when you fail to do so, they will get disappointed which could result in bigger trouble and fights.

2. Failing to share your feedback

Whether positive or negative, couples in relationships need to hear feedback from one another. It is important that you both share your thoughts about the relationship, how you are to each other and how you treat each other. It’s because this is the only way you get to learn about what both of you feel about your relationship. Sometimes, you keep things that are hurting you and you don’t want to speak up because it might trigger an argument, but that’s not the right way to keep your relationship going. You need to be willing to share and also be open to accept feedback from one another. At the end of the day, the most important thing is that you use the right approach in this communication.

3. Giving up important things for them all the time

If you or partner does this habit and does it all the time, then you are setting your relationship up for failure. You don’t have to give up your plans and other things that matter to you for partner always. While it is good to compromise for the sake of your partner and your relationship, there certain things that you should never compromise and sacrifice, especially if these things are important for you. It is also the same for your partner. For example, you don’t have to cancel some plans you have already scheduled with your friends and family simply because your significant other cannot be there or they won’t allow you to go without them.

4. Pouring out all your love and time for your partner without leaving something for yourself

People have different ways of expressing love and we also are unique or we vary on how much love we are willing to give. There are people who love with all their hearts but leaving nothing for themselves anymore. All of their time and attention are focused on their partner. There is nothing wrong with loving a person completely, but you need to know how to strike a balance between the tug of your heart and your logic. While time is valuable for any relationship, it does not mean that you should not give time for other things that matter anymore. It does not mean that you should not have some time alone, too, or time with other people who matter to you. Overdoing things for your partner will do more harm than good for the relationship. It will make the other get used to this and the other one will feel empty and miserable in the end.

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