4 Reasons Why You Can’t Find Love

November 20, 2017 at 6.00am by in Dating advice
Can’t Find Love

For some people, love is a missing piece of a puzzle that can make their lives complete. For some others, it is a commodity or a milestone that has to be achieved in their lives. However they see or define love, one thing is for sure, it is not something that anyone should chase after for it will come at the right place and time. But if you have been waiting for love for a long time, you must have been wondered why you still cannot find it and why you haven’t found your luck. But just because you haven’t found it yet does not mean that you never will.

However, if you ask yourself why you can’t really find love, it is not about your shortcomings and your imperfections like what you always thought are the reasons. We are all imperfect and flawed in many ways but a lot of us have found the love of their lives. So if you really want to know the answers;

Here are some of the possible areas where you might have gone wrong in your quest for love.

1. You are too picky

One of the main reasons why people can’t find love is because they have very high standards and too picky. There is nothing wrong with knowing what you are looking for in a person that you want to be with. And there is also nothing with choosing not to settle for less when it comes to love and relationships. However, you still need to be realistic about your standards. Don’t look for a perfect person. Know and accept that no matter how good people are, we are still flawed in certain ways.

2. You are too needy

If you are too needy, you are going to just push people. It is a sign that you feel incomplete and that there is an emptiness that you feel inside. You don’t need love to fill in this space because only you can make yourself complete. You don’t need another person to validate your existence. If you know that something is missing and you are waiting for someone to fill the missing spot, then you are not ready for love. A person will be more than glad to come along and be a part of your life if they know you don’t look at them as an opportunity to use them to make you feel complete. Love will come to you when you have learned how to love yourself completely, too.

3. You don’t know how to value yourself

If you do not know how to value yourself, you will find it more difficult to attract love because the only way to do it is to become a vessel that is ready to receive love. You will only be ready when you know what you deserve. Not having a relationship at the moment does not mean that you have to settle for less than you deserve and just welcome anybody who cannot even treat you well. Remember that how other people treat you will depend on what you will allow. How you feel about yourself is what you will attract. In order to attract the right relationship, you should also feel that you are in the right place emotionally. Make sure that you have the right reasons for wanting to be in a relationship and that you want it because you are ready for a commitment.

4. You chase the people who are not into you

Another reason why you can’t have the love you wanted is that you are interested in people who are not interested in you. Or you find a person that seems as if they are everything that you want and all the qualities that you are looking for are found in them. However, when you are with them, something tells you that something is wrong, or something just isn’t right or they are not really into you. They give you confusing signals and perplexing emotions and you seem to be content with that for a while so the cycle just continues. In the end, you still end up being alone because you have chosen to chase after a person who cannot even commit themselves to you.

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