6 Things You Should Stop Doing If You Want Your Relationship to Work

December 25, 2017 at 4.10pm by in Online Dating
How to make a relationship work

When you find a good relationship, you’d be willing to do anything and everything in your power to make it last. But, the problem is that the things you think you need to do to make your relationship a successful one are actually the things that may be destroying it. You could end up doing more harm than good.

If you desire a lasting and happy relationship, here’s a list of the things that should be avoided.

Don’t change yourself into to a person you’re not

 It is natural for anyone in a relationship to do everything to please and make their partner or spouse happy. However, overdoing it isn’t always a good idea. If your significant other expects you to be someone you are not and you do your best to meet that expectation, it means that you are not given the freedom to be yourself. You shouldn’t try to be a person you’re not. If there’s anything that you think you need to do for your relationship, it is to try to be the best version of yourself. Otherwise, you may wake up one day feeling unhappy and miserable. Resentment will grow and how you feel about your partner could start to change.

Don’t set boundaries

Being in a relationship does not mean that you and your partner can disrespect each other. You should set boundaries and define certain behaviors that you both feel are unacceptable. Be clear about the things that are making you unhappy or uncomfortable. Talk about these things and meet halfway. Try to discuss your needs and how each of you is going to meet those needs.

Avoid being  inseparable

To make your relationship work, spend some time apart. It’s essential to spend quality time together. But, you need to respect each other’s personal space as well. Allow each other to spend time for other things that matter to both of you including your families, friends, career, and interests.  While you can enjoy doing many things together as a couple, you should also spend time on other things individually. As they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder. Don’t you think that’s actually a lot sweeter?

Don’t keep secrets from each other

When you start keeping things from your partner, no matter how small they are, you are sabotaging your relationship. Don’t start the habit of lying or hiding certain things from your significant other. Before you know it, your relationship is going downhill because of lies and broken trust. Remember that the foundation of trust is honesty. If the trust is broken in a relationship, it will be difficult to make it work.

Stop thinking that love is enough

For a relationship to last, it is important that you acknowledge that love is not enough. While it is crucial to show affection and express your love to your partner, you shouldn’t forget that there are other important things that are needed for a relationship to work, like trust and respect. Remember to be a friend and a companion; someone they can talk to as their best friend.

Stop believing that you need your partner to make your life complete.

Your relationship is bound to fail if you expect your partner to make your life complete. This is, in fact, one of the biggest mistakes of any relationship. People tend to look for romantic relationships because they feel like there’s something missing in their lives. Then, when they find a person to love, they expect this person to fill in the missing pieces. But, when they fall short of their expectations, they end up feeling disappointed and frustrated. This is where fights and misunderstandings come in. Before you even enter a relationship, you should feel complete already. You should be happy and fulfilled even if you are single. When you have that sense of fulfillment, even without someone else in your life, then it’s safe to say that you are ready for a commitment.

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