Important Pieces of Advice for the Newly Engaged

November 27, 2017 at 12.52pm by in International Dating
Newly Engaged

Getting engaged could be one of the most exciting phases in the relationship of any couple. At this stage, it is easy to get overwhelmed by so many things related to your wedding including your preparations, the date when you will get married, the venue, and so on. However, you must not forget that your engagement is more than just the wedding preparations. There’s so much more to your relationship that you have to be ready for, especially the life that’s waiting for you.

So, if you just got engaged, don’t forget to heed the following pieces of advice.

1. You should not try to change each other

If you still have a couple of months before tying the knot, make the most of this time to further nurture and cultivate your relationship as boyfriends and girlfriends. You should not try to change each other to the husband or wife you want each other to become. Instead, you need to use this time to embrace more of each other and accept your differences because that is what you will do after all as soon as you get married. Love your partner with all your heart and always remind yourselves why you fell in love in the first place.

2. Know and understand each other’s goals

Now that you are on your way to a married life, you still need to know and understand that even if you have your goals as a married couple, each of you has your own personal ambitions. And even if you get married, it does not mean that you should give up on your dreams. While you are engaged, it will be best if you talk to your partner about the things you still want to achieve and accomplish even when you are already married. If you love each other, you will be supportive of each other’s happiness.

3. Work through your issues

Your engagement is not a guarantee that you won’t be breaking up or separating anymore. Although this is not to scare you, you need to understand that a lot of things could still happen during this important phase. That is why you need to work on your issues no matter how small or big they are. It is important that you settle your differences as early as possible. Otherwise, they might cause you bigger trouble in the long run.

4. Have as much fun as you can

When you are married, things will be a whole lot different than how it is now. Life will probably get a little more serious because you will be facing bigger responsibilities and obligations as you start to build your own family. So while you are still engaged, spend as much time as you can to enjoy each other’s company alone. You may not have as much time as you want to go out alone especially when you already have children.

5. Set your priorities

Marriage is a serious commitment you will have to hold on to for the rest of your life. You will no longer be making decisions for yourself alone. Whatever you do and whatever you decide, it will always have an impact to your relationship and your future family. That is why you need to talk to your partner about the priorities you will have as a married couple. You need to agree on the things that you will put on top of everything else.

6. Think about the things that matter to both of you

Your marriage is just about the two of you. While you may need to consider other people on your wedding, marriage is a whole lot different. This is the relationship you will have with your partner in your lifetime. You don’t have to make anybody else happy except for your husband or wife, and your children in the near future. This is the mindset that you should have moving forward. You are not getting married to please each other’s family although you need to value them. But the most important thing is that your relationship should only revolve around the two of you. No matter what happens and no matter how many problems you go through, nobody else will be able to resolve them but you.

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