Starting a conversation with someone through online dating sites and apps may be easy. However, keeping that conversation going is the one’s a bit challenging. If you have passed the awkward stage of having to do your first hi’s and hello’s, then congratulations! And then, what’s next? It can be a difficult to get a conversation going with someone you barely know and someone you are not even talking to in person. If you find yourself in the same situation;
Here are some helpful tips on how you can keep a conversation going when you engage in online dating.
1. Ask a lot of questions
When you don’t know what to say anymore and you can’t think of anything to share, ask your partner more questions. Make sure that these questions are light and easy because you are still getting to know each other better. This will give them an opportunity to talk about themselves and many other things. This could also be a chance for you to share something about yourself, too, if you share some common things with them.
Asking questions is also a good way to determine if you have found the right match. For instance, you have already asked tons of questions, and they still haven’t asked a single one; it only goes to show how self-absorbed they can really be. But if they also show the same interest to know you more, then they could be worth your time.
2. Keep it light
Your online conversations should be light and playful so that there’s not tension and awkwardness. This will help you move things forward. If you feel like asking more serious or complicated questions, you might want to save that for when you see each other in person. Some things are better discussed offline, and online conversations are supposed to be used for getting to know each other and flirtation only.
3. Refer to their profile
When you run out of topics to talk about, refer back to your partner’s profile and talk about the things that caught your attention. It would be nice to let them know that you took the time to read through their profile and you found them interesting. This is a very simple way to make someone feel flattered and appreciated. However, you need to make sure you are also sincere when you pay them a compliment.
4. Encourage them to talk more
Most people love it when they know that you are interested in what they have to say, so let them know that you are interested and encourage then to share more. It will also make them feel that you are intently listening and paying attention and somehow. That’s a good step to making them feel more comfortable with you.
5. Draw up stories from others
You don’t always have to draw from your own life experience when talking to someone online. You may share stories from other people or from anywhere like the things you have seen on TV, the ones you have read online or those you came across on the social media. If you can integrate these stories into your conversation, it will be much better and it will make your conversations more interesting.
6. No filtering
This technique will allow you to say anything and everything that comes into your mind. While you may need to make sure you don’t say something offensive or anything that will make the conversation sour, you also should not over filter or check with yourself all the time if it’s okay to say this and that. You don’t have to question yourself if you will sound cool if you say this, or sound smart if you say that. You just have to be yourself and not worry about what the other person will think. It is an excellent way to gauge if they can accept you for who you are and embrace your personality.
If you want your online conversations to keep going and move to the right direction, here are some of the helpful tips you may want to try. It is not easy at first when you are new to online dating, but you sure will get the hang of it in the long run. Just have fun, keep it light and be yourself.
Olga loves travelling and learning about different cultures. She enjoys taking photos, trying new foods, and spending time outdoors. A skilled writer, Olga is a language enthusiast as well. She enjoys meeting new people from around the world and trying out new recipes in her kitchen.
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